I was sat on the tube putting my backpack on. Suddenly a man grabbed my bag & shoulder.
I shouted “woah! what are you doing?” I thought he was stealing my bag.
He then verbally abused me for 5 mins because he wanted to “help me”.
Him: I’m helping you!
Me: don’t touch me.
Him: I saw your stick I’m helping you with your bag.
Me: I thought you were stealing it! How was I to know!
Him: this train is packed with 100 people I wanted to help you!
Me: why didn’t you ask!
Me: then ASK ME IF I NEED HELP!
Him: this train is packed! I was going to help you.
Me: I do this every day. Don’t touch people or their possessions without ASKING!
He started muttering.
She offered to help clear a way for me but then I realised we weren’t at my stop. So I just waited by the door. 4/
I got off at my stop, made it to the ticket hall & had a tearful panic attack on a bench.
The TfL staff were lovely as ever, got me water & tissues. Listened to me. 5/
In fact he hurried out of the house so quickly he actually split his trousers right down the back 😂!
He got me home safety & I’m now in bed coming down from the panic attack. 6/
I take the violation of my consent & physical boundaries, because if I dare object I get an aggressive lecture on how ungrateful I am.
Today I had just reached a limited & needed to stand up for myself & my body. 7/
But tomorrow I have to get on the tube again & put up with the next stranger touching me.
So please share this thread so people can learn to #JustAskDontGrab disabled people. 8/8
However this isn’t an isolated incident, I experience this a lot.
As do many other disabled women. I have started a new project collecting their stories, please read them & share them ⬇️