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“Cox blasted the EEOC for not challenging the funeral home’s gender-specific dress code requiring female employees to wear a ‘skirt-suit’ and men to wear a ‘pants-suit with a neck tie.’”

“If the compelling interest is truly in eliminating gender stereotypes, the court fails to see why the EEOC couldn’t propose a gender-neutral dress code as a reasonable accommodation that would be a less restrictive means of furthering that goal under the facts presented here.”
A gender-neutral dress code would help ALL employees by sparing them the burden of performing sex-stereotypical forms of dress. It would allow employees of any gender identity to perform their work without representing themselves as a sex they don’t consider their own.
A gender-neutral dress code would allow both the employer and their customers to handle their business without either infringing upon OR being required to particpate in the validation of gender ideology that they do not ascribe to. And that should be the goal in these cases.
For gay rights, we only ever asked for the right to remain employed without being harassed after our employers become aware of our orientation. We never demanded they address our spouses as, say, “Brenda’s life partner Marianne; I celebrate the rightness of their love forever.”
Mechanically, gender ideology works more like a religion than anything else. It’s extremely important to people, and it reflects their sacred beliefs about themselves. However, those things they believe are invisible to the rest of us. We have to take their word for it.
And we can do that, but only up to the point we do with any other unprovable belief system we don’t share. As M. Berns pointed out, we don’t consider someone to be infringing upon the rights of priests if they don’t address them as “father.”
There is a HUGE DIFFERENCE between asking someone to give others the space to have a belief system and practice it freely, and requiring them to practice it along with those people so they feel validated and approved of. We are not legally obligated to approve of other religions.
That’s why the pronoun issue is so insidious. It used to just be a polite way of helping the trans person be more comfortable socially, and I didn’t mind. Now, if I use their preferred pronouns, it’s understood to mean I’m agreeing, “Yes, you are literally a woman.” And I don’t.
We only have the right to freely express our beliefs if we also have the right NOT to express OTHER PEOPLE’S beliefs. The idea that male/female/man/woman is entirely subjective and experiential is something I do not believe. And I refuse to say things I know aren’t true.
We have reached a point where legal action is taken if we won’t address a priest as “father.” Tolerance isn’t enough; we’re being legally required to convert. Our own critical thought and expression thereof is being criminalized. That’s what happens under religious rule.
We can’t accept religious rule, regardless of what the religion is. The gender belief system is particularly damaging, because it places the definition of “woman” in the hands of men, enforcing that unscientific definition from childhood and on.

This religion is bad for women.
It is SO INCREDIBLY DANGEROUS for a society to stop setting its laws according to objective, measurable principles. If policy *doesn’t have to make sense,* then the policy-makers can do ANYTHING THEY LIKE if they have enough power to back it. That is incredibly dangerous.
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