Grounding is essential for survivors, especially to manage symptoms of PTSD.
Grounding is about connecting with our body and anchoring our body in our surroundings, to calm anxiety and control dissociation patterns when feeling triggered.
By grounding, we can stay present and make sure that we are in control of decision making and can respond soothingly to our inner child who may be suffering a trauma response to feeling triggered (so maybe reacting with fight/flight/freeze). #SexAbuseChat
The simplest way to approach grounding is to tap into our 5 senses.
Just asking ourselves what we can see, hear, smell, taste, feel (physically) can bring us back into the room and help us to feel secure and safe enough to do what we need in the moment. #SexAbuseChat
Grounding Techniques
To connect with the here and now, do something (or several things) that will bring all your attention to the present moment.
Be sure to keep your eyes open while you're grounding yourself so you're aware of everything that's going on around you. If you notice that you're slipping into a flashback or a dissociative state, try some of these grounding techniques.
-Turn up the radio or blast your favorite song.
-Talk out loud about what you see, hear, or what you're thinking or doing.
-Call a loved one.
-Put on some nature sounds such as birds chirping or waves crashing.
-Hold an ice cube and let it melt in your hand.
-Put your hands under running water.
-Take a hot or cool shower.
-Grab an article of clothing, a blanket, or a towel and knead it in your hands or hold it to your cheek. Concentrate on what it feels like.
-Rub your hand lightly over the carpet or a piece of furniture, noting the texture.
-Pop some bubble wrap.
-Massage your temples.
-If you have a dog or cat, cuddle and pet him or her.
-Drink a hot or cold beverage.
-Smell
-Sniff strong peppermint, which also has the benefit of having a soothing effect.
-Light a scented candle
-Get some essential oils that remind you of good times (freshly cut grass, rain, clean laundry, or sugar cookies, for example) and smell one
-Bite into a lemon or lime.
-Suck on a mint or chew peppermint or cinnamon gum.
-Take a bite of pepper or some hot salsa.
-Let a piece of chocolate melt in your mouth, noticing how it tastes and feels as you roll it around with your tongue.
-Take a mental inventory of everything around you, such as all the colors and patterns you see, the sounds you hear, and the scents you smell. Saying this out loud is helpful too.
-Count all the pieces of furniture around you.
-Put on your favorite movie or TV show.
-Play a distracting game on your tablet, computer, or smartphone.
-Complete a crossword puzzle, sudoku, word search, or other puzzles.
-Read a book or magazine.
-Write in a journal about how you're feeling or keep a list of prompts handy that you can use to decide what to write about.
-Write a letter or card to someone you care about.
-Dance.
-Stretch your arms, neck, and legs.
-Go for a walk or run.
The holiday season is a time of celebration and a chance to reconnect with family and friends, but it can also present challenges for some survivors of sexual assault.
Perpetrators of sexual violence are usually someone the victim knows.
This is especially true for those who have experienced child sexual abuse. For survivors, holiday gatherings may mean facing painful memories, feelings of anxiety, or a chance of repeated harm.
Large gatherings can also make it more difficult for survivors
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We've talked about sleep troubles, naps, and other topics here, so today we're covering sleep hygiene.
How many of us take an internet device like a phone or tablet to bed? You don't have to admit it, but stats show many people sleep with a device next to the bed.
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So we find ourselves in the midst of a global pandemic. Those who never had anxiety have increasing levels of it... For those of us w/ trauma, PTSD, anxiety and/or depression linked to sexual abuse, this situation has possibly had an effect on our symptoms.
Those who are at home most of the time may not be affected so much by the 'lockdown' procedures sweeping the globe, however venturing out for food or meds is now a very different experience, and likely an increasingly nerve-shredding one.
Venturing out for any reason, in many places is now partly controlled by government restrictions. The fear of making a mistake and being publicly reprimanded by an authority figure can be particularly daunting.
A woman does not need to fight back or resist in order to prove that she did not consent to unwanted sex. (Canadian sexual assault law does not require proof of resistance to demonstrate a lack of consent.) Nevertheless, in popular imagination
women are often expected to resist in order to prove that they really were “real” victims of sexual assault. This is one of the enduring #RapeMyths, that a “true” victim of sexual assault will fight back or scream and yell, and if she didn’t she must have consented to sex.
This mistaken idea simply fails to understand typical responses to sexual threat, coercion, intrusion and/or fear. Too often, sexual assault victims are asked, “Why didn’t you just fight back, or scream, or struggle, or run away?”