There comes a point in life, though, where that strategy backfires.
This is a tough thread, but here goes.
One started drinking too much - to the point that it endangered their job.
One became so burnt out that they were snapping at work (& home).
One had to step away from a long- desired project, because they felt so overwhelmed.
One had a re- emergence of a long-dormant eating disorder.
(Others said other things, that landed to varying degrees.)
As one said to me recently: Sometimes "working harder" makes it worse. Not just for you, but for everyone around you.
Or a change in how we focus.
Or a change in WHY we choose to focus.
Remembering that, in the words of Billy King, "Pressure is a privilege. Usually if you have tremendous pressure, it's because an opportunity comes along."
But that requires the reframe.
A strong sense of self.
A willingness to let go.
About having the courage to develop new paths and measures and goals.
Allowing myself to lead from something more substantial than "having done the homework."
It's also EXHAUSTING.
Our culture doesn't always support vulnerability. But without it, we cannot grow. The alternative is staying stuck - or worse.