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Society has been a bit harsh on our boys lately.

Lots of boys getting lost and/or ending up in perpetual adolescence.

Which begs the question:

How do you help transform your son into a good man?

My wife and I explored this topic and uncovered 3 critical rules.

The first thing to understand is that boys and girls are different.

I shouldn't have to tell you that.

Second, boys *should* be boys.

Here are 3 things that help transform them into good men:
(1). Establishing Structure
(2). Quality Time
(3). Playing Outside

Let's dive in...
(1.) Establishing Structure

Knowing how and when to discipline your son will make him a better person.

You must balance love and discipline.

Being overly critical, harsh and combative with your son will only make it more difficult for you to communicate with him.
Sons listen to people (parents) whom they respect, like, admire, or fear (in a healthy way).

Pro tip: Always listen first.

Positivity & encouragement should always outweigh any criticism.

Consistent rules that keep your son safe and teach him the difference in right & wrong.
Coddling & spoiling is even worse than harsh punishments. It teaches your son nothing about resiliency & the consequences of his actions.

Rules, when enforced firmly, fairly & consistently give your son structure.

And structure is important to the healthy development of boys.
(2). Quality Time

We must be willing to see that what our boys need isn’t simply more education, more prescriptions, more money, or more activities.

What they need is us.

There is absolutely no substitute for spending time with your son.
We always want our kid to be the best.

But putting your child in more activities is only more time he is NOT with you.

That is counterproductive and should be done with caution.

You are not a chauffeur.

You are his parent, with whom he is meant to spend quality time.
When you are in the middle of parenting day-to-day it can be difficult to remember you are raising a whole person.

Presumably a person you want to raise to become a productive, kind, happy member of society.

Remind yourself that time with you is the best way to raise him.
(3). Playing Outside

I know, I get it. It sounds rudimentary and girls can/should do this as well.

But, it is a bit different.

"Boys like nature because it offers them a physical and imaginative testing ground.”
They can test their power against others, pretend to triumph over evil, and come to understand themselves through physical activity.

Outside is where boys learn to be the very essence of a boy.

They fail in a very real way that cannot be undone by a “restart” of a video game.
Let biology run its course. Get your son outside, let him get dirty, let him run & jump and compete with the neighborhood boys.

Your son will develop confidence, social skills, understand the strengths & weaknesses of himself & his peers and hone their decision-making abilities
In Summary
• Provide & follow a set rules in your household. Your son will thrive on structure & learn to trust & respect you.
• Spend time w/ your son. The activity doesn’t matter.
• Make sure he spends time outside, where his imagination can run wild & he can test his limits
In society right now masculinity is often attacked as the enemy, but if we nurtured it in the right ways, our boys would turn out how every parent wishes them to be: kind, genuine, healthy, happy individuals marked by personalities of strength, self-control, resilience and love.
If this resonated, I encourage you to check out the full post, written by my wife, here: dialedinmen.com/transform-son-…
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