1. It depends. No one really gave specifics about what it depends on, but I could imagine the following scenarios where I might reduce my use of "bad language":
* religious institution
* children may be present
Are men judged differently for the use of language than women? I have heard from a few women the say they have been criticized for cursing, while very few men have been.
I used to be a relativist. Meaning, that all values are relative. All truths are relative. This leads to a very liberal perspective of the world, where tolerating everyone else's values is of paramount value in the end.
At first, when I moved from NY Metro area to California, this was couched as "being nice" instead of being direct. Even though for me, that a request to be passive aggressive, instead of being nice. It felt awkward.
Purim, Chanukah, Passover all in one way or another have a message of intolerance over the behaviors and beliefs that threaten no one.
For me requesting someone to change their words without really changing the content of their message is a request for conformity.
Are you offended bc I don't share your beliefs? E.g. I don't believe in hell, Jesus, Mohammed, even your god, so words like damn, hell, Jesus, offend ...