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Let me tweet this again bc people are missing a few things when it comes to #BothamJean's family and this forgiveness.

~ Forgiveness does not mean Botham's mother doesn't believe #AmberGuyger's sentence shouldn't have been longer.

#AmberGuygerTrial #AmberGuygerSentencing 1/3
~ For some folks, forgiveness is done FOR YOUR OWN SAKE. It has NOTHING to do with the person and what they did.

~ Forgiveness and Accountability are not mutually exclusive

~ Mama #BothamJean ain't told nobody to do what she's chosen to do


~ #BothamJean's mother understands all of this about forgiveness because she walked out of that courtroom, stepped her forgiving soul to the mic AND DRAGGGGGGED THE DALLAS PD FOR CORRUPTION.

Yall HAVE GOT to get to a place where you can hold more complex thought. Jesus! 3/3
The God that commands me to forgive is the same God that said "Speak...the truth...; execute the judgment of truth & peace" and that every sin has its "just recompense of reward".

#FORGIVENESS and JUSTICE are not mutually exclusive.

It's WHITE SUPREMACY that tells you they are.
AND I agree w this, too.
#Forgiveness should NEVER be abt proving your humanity to White ppl and that is absolutely what White ppl since the beginning of their raping & pillaging on this soil have and do make it out to be. If you gon do it, do it for you.
But I wish a nigga would tell me I CAN'T forgive who I want to forgive bc WHITE PEOPLE do xyz and if I do, WHITE PEOPLE will think or do whatever

Is you free or ain't you? Forgive 'cause that's what YOU want or need to do. Screw everybody else & these bizarre inverted rationales
One of these days, somebody gon get the revelation that for SOME folks, #forgiveness isn't about absolution of the offender.

On the contrary, it's that person saying, "You ARE NOT WORTHY of my mental and emotional state, and I will not allow you to control it with your actions."
#Forgiveness can be a way of retrieving YOUR OWN POWER & control of your inner state from the person who has disrupted it w their actions, a way of commanding the water to be still after some savage human threw a meteor into it.

Which never means one cant work to stop their harm
You ain't got to do it.

But let folk, even Black folk, BE FREE to #forgive - FOR THEIR OWN PEACE OF MIND - not for White absolution but bc they WANT to, even as they fight injustice.

Some ppl prefer a modicum of peace if they are at all able to take that peace back for themselves.

And that's okay.

To suggest and assume this Black family chooses #forgiveness for White absolution and not solely themselves strips them of autonomy & yet again, centers Whiteness
#Forgiveness is only nefarious if forgiving you means I have to pretend the truth of you is a lie. That's the distortion, though. So you're left with only the internal unrest of consuming fury or letting them off the hook as your recourse. That's the hustle of the distorter.
What I'm challenging the reader to do is deconstruct that, RECLAIM #forgiveness from the sick jokas that have distorted it. I can seek justice bc IT'S RIGHT...rather than bc I don't forgive you. I can pursue justice bc IT'S NECESSARY rather than bc you deserve destruction.
And I can forgive you - release bitterness or consuming anger - bc I don't desire to feel that...not because you deserve my #forgiveness...and STILL hold you fully accountable for your actions.
The mindscrew is the belief that power's distortion and abuse of #forgiveness can't be divorced from the existence of forgiveness.

Thereby, what? Conscribing us all to never be able to deliver relief TO OURSELVES from the torments forcibly imposed on us by another's savagery.
Because let's not pretend like rage and bitterness and seething anger does not hurt or erode the soul that holds it...even when it's justified to be there. It's okay to both want and give YOURSELF some relief if you have the ability and desire to do so.
And it's okay to feel angry.
It's okay to be fully human.
It's okay if you struggle w it all and do the best you can. It really is okay.

God help us all.
I gave my 10yo a general overview of what his mommy worked on, taught and shared on twitter all day. He responded, "You should get paid for that!" LOL
So, here's the links in case, you know, that you agree.🤷🏾‍♀️lol
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