I never knew the value of those calls- even though it wasn’t all the time- until he died later that year.
Some of you still have fathers but all you do is fight them and behave like ungrateful stupid truants.
Many of you will never understand your shameful stupidity until you grow older and the man is long gone.
But you are not a perfect child either.
And many people that know you see you as a twat and a silly brat as well.
If your best friends still give you a chance in their life despite your weaknesses, how much more the person who gave birth to you?
At the end of the day,
If you feel your dad has irreparably damaged you, seek psychological therapy. If you feel it’s not that bad, speak to him.
If your dad is alive,
And if you have issues, resolve it.
Okay. I’m sorry to hear that.
That’s really awful.
But be honest:
have you been responsible yourself?
Now that you are a man/woman of your own right- have you showed him any love, care or sense of responsibility?
He has a duty to you,
And you have a duty to him.
A good parent should care for their child regardless of what the child does. And a good child should care for their parent despite what the parent does.
Is any of this easy? No.
Is it good? Yes.
And in the same way,
We don’t care for our parents because they have been good to us, we care for them because they are our parents.
This is how to live above the pain.
Part of the healing you need is to forgive them so you can also find recovery.
None of this will be easy,
But it will be worth it.