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Dec 11, 2019 11 tweets 4 min read Read on X
For the sake of viewpoint diversity / productively critical clash of ideas:

The #SobSquad movement falls into "most disagree + I don't yet have an argument which stands up to their criticism + maybe they know something important".
I have tons of questions about it which'd be cool to hammer out.

Like:
-For traumatised adults only, or would children get value?
-For all hang-ups, or mainly social ones? (Food hang-ups, spider fears?)
-Is it the only way to get desired effects?
-Do you REALLY not suffer‽
-etc
@Malcolm_Ocean @QiaochuYuan @Aryeh___

… Poooodcast? 😊
State of the argument so far:

cryguys

😭💦🌊🏊‍♂️🚣‍♀️🏖

me

#SobSquad
Salient issues:

▪︎ Can one experience negative emotions without suffering? (If not, what the heck are emotions?)

▪︎ Seems really good to not say to people "your emotions are bad, don't have them".

▪︎ Emotions may be more like physical sensations than ideas‽
@Malcolm_Ocean @QiaochuYuan @Aryeh___ (I would also accept a rap battle.)
Things I'd need to answer:

▸ What the heck is happening when someone cries a bunch and then something releases and it feels good after and traumas appear cleared out?

▸ Is crying from being moved by beauty bad‽ If so, why?

▸ Mourning?

▸ How else do you solve deep trauma?
New followers—my thing is a kind of relentless 'positive' focus:

- all problems are soluble
- feeling bad is bad & unnecessary
- feeling bad sabotages thought
- it's always possible to solve problems w/o things getting worse
- local maximum traps are myths
- Step 1. #StopTheHurt
The idea of my whole philosophy is to get away from authority (/force) deciding between ideas.

Rather, using merit instead.

This includes ideas within one person, and subconscious/inexplicit/emotional ideas.

So there's a question: Does crying = badfeels = stuckness = coercion?
My current guess is basically yes, basically bad feelings are the inexplicit guide for what's coercive or wrong avenues of thought. They're implementing critical epistemology on the inexplicit level.

(God that was a lot of jargon.)
Another #SobSquad critique/question:

"What you focus on expands."

Is the idea to get free of upset/trauma, or to have a lifestyle that involves a lot of upset and continual focus on trauma?

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