I've spent the last few weeks coming up with 10 guidelines. After sharing them with friends, I was encouraged to share them publicly because they resonated.
So: incoming thread!
Use social media with wisdom, kindness and integrity, keeping in mind what’s important to you. Ask yourself “Why am I sharing this?” If you don’t like the answer, don’t do it.
There are consequences – both good and bad – when putting content out there. Always remember that content never goes away and words have power. Share intelligently, thoughtfully, compassionately and carefully.
The louder your voice, the more critics will hear it. Do what’s in your heart, knowing not everyone will appreciate it. That’s okay. It’s never been for them.
Some will choose to be cruel. That’s on them and not a reflection of you. Consider constructive criticism. For everything else – the pettiness, the name-calling, the hate – mute/block and move on.
Social media companies use notifications to keep you engaged on their terms. You know this burns you out. So, keep them off and check in on YOUR terms.
Anxiety and depression love the numbing effect of the infinite scroll – but lots of online time makes it worse. Know when your brain needs a break to do what really helps.
Walk away. Call a friend. Take a walk. Read a book. Do some breathing. Hug a dog. Bake a cake. You are allowed to take breaks and they’re good for you. Do so liberally.
Don’t feed emotional vampires. You don’t owe anyone your time or energy. You don’t owe them a debate and you don’t need to prove anything to them.
At the end of the day, you need to be happy with you. Don’t try to live up to everyone else’s expectations. Follow your own rules of engagement. Do it your way.
And cats. And llamas and alpacas too. Floofs are why social media was created. Also they make you smile.