I had this convo with a friend recently — you must try to avoid looping on whether you're "good enough" or "deserve" x, y, z. There's no authority that can answer that. There's no divine stone tablet for self-grading. This is a perniciously egotistic way to drive yourself insane.
For whatever it's worth, you have my permission to accept it as a given that you're a perfectly fine human being, and to avoid self-referential thoughts as much as possible. If you can manage it, you'll probably find yourself getting a lot more done and feeling quite a bit better
You also may make better choices, because "this is a thing I'd like to do/make" is a better reason for doing stuff than "this will provide evidence that I am good enough." I've met many people stuck doing variations of the latter, feeling unmotivated, tired & still insufficient
Feeling good about yourself often *follows* the doing stuff, and it's really upsetting to see people put the cart in front of the horse and then blame themselves for traveling at very low speeds
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I think everyone will find something to dislike in my take on Dylan Mulvaney, which is that there is obviously a desperate cultural thirst for someone, anyone, to just wholeheartedly enjoy being a girl in a way that is politically acceptable — and this is probably a good thing!
I do find it reductive and a little bit embarrassing, but man, the culture we have has got to start somewhere. The idea that there is *anything* good about femininity has been MIA for what, a decade? Longer?
While I'm digging my hole, I think trad culture could probably take a note here because a lot of it does come across as very... Girlboss, But With Apron. At times, it delves into "our way is better because it takes 20x as long and hurts." This is not the way, not always
My mom's home in Oregon is being seized by "friends" who she allowed in a few months ago, who now refuse to leave & have literally stolen keys to her outbuildings. It's impossible to navigate her rights & obligations because local housing lawyers are booked up w similar conflicts
They moved two additional people in; mom can't afford to go anywhere else, so she has four people who live rent free in her house and glower at her as they go to and fro, leaving their dishes for her to clean and taking hour-long showers
You cannot imagine how bad tenant-landlord law is in some of these coastal states
If you think this is an exaggeration, you may not fully grok the scope of this program as it *already* exists after just 5 years commonsense.news/p/scheduled-to…
To be clear, Canada won't allow the first assisted mental illness suicides until next year
To my mind, this is just one segment of a completely unavoidable slippery slope once you eliminate the requirement for terminal illness/foreseeability of death, as Canada has done