We have been surviving trauma in the post #metoo era with the Harvey Weinstein case and more recently with the Jeffrey Epstein atrocities.
To speak publicly about one’s personal experience with sexual abuse invites the stigma that is
However, there is power when you speak about the unspeakable and there is healing as well and a creative energy that is released when you push through the barriers.
We have all been traumatized by the Jeffrey Epstein case. When a person is exposed to horrible events as we have through the eyes of the survivors – it has affected us all.
All of us are caught in this conflict between the predator and the victim.
The evil doer does not want those listening to do anything.
WE DO THIS because we have carried the pain and the burden of society (not being believed, stigmas, etc) for so long
And we have fought back.
It is good not to fight back alone - because predators thrive on isolating their victims.
They did this to escape accountability for their crimes and to keep it out of the public arena.
>>I have to pause here because I am tearing up <<
I've seen a lot of followers with their mouths covered. I instantly know they have been silenced. It never gets easier to see
If and when these predators cannot silence us - then they attack the victims/us and our credibility. In the past this worked because up until now survivors of sexual abuse haven't had a shared platform.
We can see the denials from the list of men associated with Jeffrey Epstein, for example.
Despite court cases, investigations and court documents these men continue to deny.
Because now the predator is claiming the victim has lied. That nothing happened. Or that it was a choice. Or that she must be exaggerating. Or that there was consent.
There just weren't any words available to us to share what happened.
But we have words now. And the word "consent" is getting the attention it finally deserves.
There is NO CONSENT when there is the threat
There is no consent when the person is in a position of power over you. (That is not to say sexual assault doesn't happen between peers - but "power" whether physical or social plays a role).
The desire to survive sexual assault is strong.
Everyone is stronger than you at first believe you are. Everyone has survived an illness, a death, an assault, something we didn't know how to cope with. Until we did. We learned. We survived!