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Surviving Sexual Assault, Surviving Trauma

We have been surviving trauma in the post #metoo era with the Harvey Weinstein case and more recently with the Jeffrey Epstein atrocities.

To speak publicly about one’s personal experience with sexual abuse invites the stigma that is
attached to victims.

However, there is power when you speak about the unspeakable and there is healing as well and a creative energy that is released when you push through the barriers.
It is impossible to remain neutral.

We have all been traumatized by the Jeffrey Epstein case. When a person is exposed to horrible events as we have through the eyes of the survivors – it has affected us all.
As witnesses (depending on our role in society) we will identify either with the evil-doers or the victims.

All of us are caught in this conflict between the predator and the victim.

The evil doer does not want those listening to do anything.
On the other hand, the victim by sharing personal stories of abuse is inviting participation and action.

WE DO THIS because we have carried the pain and the burden of society (not being believed, stigmas, etc) for so long
that having others listen and sympathize gives us relief and finally a platform. It is okay. We did nothing wrong. Wrongs were committed against us.

And we have fought back.

It is good not to fight back alone - because predators thrive on isolating their victims.
As we have publicly witnessed, with both the Harvey Weinstein and Jeffrey Epstein cases - these men used every arsenal they could get their hands on to silence their victims.

They did this to escape accountability for their crimes and to keep it out of the public arena.
So what they do is to create a world of secrecy and to threaten those who speak. Therefore SILENCE.

>>I have to pause here because I am tearing up <<

I've seen a lot of followers with their mouths covered. I instantly know they have been silenced. It never gets easier to see
anyone who has been forcibly silenced.

If and when these predators cannot silence us - then they attack the victims/us and our credibility. In the past this worked because up until now survivors of sexual abuse haven't had a shared platform.
However this does not stop the predator from continuing to try to silence us.

THE DENIALS.

We can see the denials from the list of men associated with Jeffrey Epstein, for example.
Alan Dershowitz
Leslie Wexner
Bill Clinton
Prince Andrew
Glenn Dubin

Despite court cases, investigations and court documents these men continue to deny.
This is a further assault on the victim(s).

Because now the predator is claiming the victim has lied. That nothing happened. Or that it was a choice. Or that she must be exaggerating. Or that there was consent.
Remember not too long ago - we didn't even have a word for date rape.

There just weren't any words available to us to share what happened.

But we have words now. And the word "consent" is getting the attention it finally deserves.

There is NO CONSENT when there is the threat
of the withdrawal of your vocation, your job, your employment.

There is no consent when the person is in a position of power over you. (That is not to say sexual assault doesn't happen between peers - but "power" whether physical or social plays a role).
Surviving sexual assault happens in stages. The women who have stood up against powerful men like Weinstein and Epstein showed that despite the threat of danger -- the desire to be set free is stronger.

The desire to survive sexual assault is strong.
Speaking 4 myself: I survived. It took a long time. But I did it. Many of u have too.

Everyone is stronger than you at first believe you are. Everyone has survived an illness, a death, an assault, something we didn't know how to cope with. Until we did. We learned. We survived!
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