On "men love idealistically, and women love opportunistically" plus "she's not yours, it's just your turn"
(an ambitious little thread attempting to unify a few theories on love by a few true romantics I admire)
Credit: @RationalMale @Rich_Cooper @alpharivelino & @spretza
(an ambitious little thread attempting to unify a few theories on love by a few true romantics I admire)
Credit: @RationalMale @Rich_Cooper @alpharivelino & @spretza
Whether you're a man or a woman, love is not something you receive, love is an action you perform.
Love means giving something of yourself, to whatever it is you love.
It's my understanding that men love "the world", and women love "objects", and I will aim to prove that here.
Love means giving something of yourself, to whatever it is you love.
It's my understanding that men love "the world", and women love "objects", and I will aim to prove that here.
Men love the world.
Because love is an action, loving the world means a man gives himself to the world.
Not to a particular job, or home, or child, or woman, but to the universe.
To creation, to a higher power, to a higher purpose.
To whoever, or whatever needs him.
Because love is an action, loving the world means a man gives himself to the world.
Not to a particular job, or home, or child, or woman, but to the universe.
To creation, to a higher power, to a higher purpose.
To whoever, or whatever needs him.
Man is capable of loving many things, and each with his whole heart.
A man can love his work, as well as the men he works with, as well as the market his company works within, as well as the society all companies work within.
Man can love an army, and a war.
A man can love his work, as well as the men he works with, as well as the market his company works within, as well as the society all companies work within.
Man can love an army, and a war.
Loving the world fits well with @RationalMale's theory of man's idealistic love.
A man's love is infinite, flexible, always open, always growing.
A man's love builds civilizations.
A man's love is infinite, flexible, always open, always growing.
A man's love builds civilizations.
"Civilization itself is a love song by Men, for Women, writ large and sung out across time and space." -@spretza
Not a song by a particular man, for a particular woman. But love from all men, for all women, and for all of civilization.
Men give themselves to the greater good.
Not a song by a particular man, for a particular woman. But love from all men, for all women, and for all of civilization.
Men give themselves to the greater good.
Women (thankfully!) tend to love objects (definition: "objects" - a person or thing to which a specified action or feeling is directed.)
Singular items, that she identifies with.
HER home, HER child, HER friends, HER man.
Singular items, that she identifies with.
HER home, HER child, HER friends, HER man.
@RationalMale describes a woman's love as opportunistic.
I believe what Rollo really means is she picks a few things she gives herself to, and that's what she loves, nothing else...
...except if her scenario changes, she then gives herself to the new scenario, the new objects.
I believe what Rollo really means is she picks a few things she gives herself to, and that's what she loves, nothing else...
...except if her scenario changes, she then gives herself to the new scenario, the new objects.
This, of course, is incredibly beneficial to survival.
(see: "War Brides")
And, it would be a grave, short-sighted error to believe a woman wants your stuff.
She may identify with your stuff, and love your stuff, but she can also change what stuff, and what people, she loves.
(see: "War Brides")
And, it would be a grave, short-sighted error to believe a woman wants your stuff.
She may identify with your stuff, and love your stuff, but she can also change what stuff, and what people, she loves.
Being the object of a woman's love is amazing!
Unless something changes and you're no longer her favorite.
Man's gravest error is in believing once she has chosen the things she likes, she will continue to give herself to those things - love those things - forever.
Unless something changes and you're no longer her favorite.
Man's gravest error is in believing once she has chosen the things she likes, she will continue to give herself to those things - love those things - forever.
And in some cases that might be true? My mother never did find another man to love, after my dad died. She's a real life Alpha Widow.
(The Alpha Widow is a great example of a woman's love for one object that can persist through her entire life.)
(The Alpha Widow is a great example of a woman's love for one object that can persist through her entire life.)
In general we know when a man is with another woman he wants to give his infinite love to more people.
And when a woman cheats she wants to give her object love to a new object.
That's my understanding of the core of @Rich_Cooper's "she's not yours it's just your turn" theory.
And when a woman cheats she wants to give her object love to a new object.
That's my understanding of the core of @Rich_Cooper's "she's not yours it's just your turn" theory.
And I think he's right.
And I also think it's possible that "your turn" could last the rest of her life.
I think this theory of "object love" vs. "world love" unifies both perspectives.
If you can be her favorite object forever, then she may love you forever.
And I also think it's possible that "your turn" could last the rest of her life.
I think this theory of "object love" vs. "world love" unifies both perspectives.
If you can be her favorite object forever, then she may love you forever.
Love for the world is also how men can love more than one woman. His love is wide, and universal, and sacrificial.
Love for objects is why a woman can only love one man at a time. Her love is deep, and focused, and nurturing.
Because men love the world, and women love objects.
Love for objects is why a woman can only love one man at a time. Her love is deep, and focused, and nurturing.
Because men love the world, and women love objects.
