If you have no skin in the game on her reaction, she's going to get that vibe and be attracted to you.
Neediness, weakness, and lack of self control are turn offs.
Vulnerability becomes more of a player later in a relationship, but even then, a man who continues to maintain control in his life is the most attractive thing for a woman.
If you want an LTR and a life with a woman, you have to also let down your guard.