The issue with the way the nakba is commemorated is that it pushes a narrative that Israel is the aggressor. It’s not so much about remembering those who were unfortunately caught in the middle of a war but tries to portray it as though Israel caused the war.
It displays one side as completely innocent and the other side as completely guilty. It distorts cause and effect and places the consequences of the war on the side which had tried to avoid it through diplomacy via partition.
It puts the unreasonable expectation that the Jews shouldn’t have tried to fight back. Acknowledging that war causes travesties is more than understandable, it’s expected. Distorting it to make it seem like an intended massacre of annihilation against Palestinians is disingenuous
The effects of war are ugly, and this one had effects which caused waves throughout the Middle East and wasn’t confined to just Israel/Palestine. For example: Just days after the vote at the UN approving partition, riots broke out in Aden protesting the decision.
Over the course of 3 days, on December 2nd 1947, over 80 Jews would be murdered and over 100 homes, shops, and synagogues were looted and destroyed. 
“Yitzhak holds in his home a collection of photos from Aden. He has a lot of photos, but one photo acts like a thousand testimonies on the sad end to a magnificent community.”
“This is a pile of those murdered.”
“These are bodies?”
“Bodies...yes bodies.”
“This is a pile of those murdered.”
“These are bodies?”
“Bodies...yes bodies.”
I empathize with those who wish commemorate the unfortunate consequences of the war, it’s ugly and war will never be “pretty” or perfect. I don’t empathize with those who feel the need to turn it into a hatefest which paints us as the source for all that is wrong there.
