Hope you are doing great and keeping safe.
Welcome to another episode of #PastorExplainThis where we provide biblical answers to life's vexing questions.
Thank you for joining us today.
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May we enjoy depth of insight and clarity of mind as we study together today, in the name of Jesus.
Amen!
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This means that we need to look into the first place where any subject is first mentioned or any practice is first enacted in the Bible to understand God's intent concerning the matter.
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So, Adam clearly made the first move, not the woman.
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"He" is the one doing the finding, not "She".
He is to find, she is to be found.
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Didn't she propose to him?
Well, NO!
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Ruth 2:5 Then Boaz said to his servant who was in charge of the reapers, "Whose young woman is this?"
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That was not a proposal, it was an acceptance of what the law demanded.
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Don't shoot your shot!
Let him be the one to shoot! 😀
For yet a little while, and he that shall come will come, and will not tarry. Hebrews 10:37 (KJV)
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It is NOT written!
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Don't try to force it.
Don't attempt to seduce him or manoeuvre your way into his heart.
Don't start practising "Christian Witchcraft" by praying manipulative and unscriptural prayers with his picture.
Don't generate fake prophecies.
Wait!
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Isaiah 60:3 makes it clear that people, including kings, are attracted to light.
So, just shine your light wherever you are and you can be sure you will soon become the cynosure of all eyes, including the brother's.
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No problem!
Approach it with equanimity and move on.
God has many wonderful and eligible sons.
What is yours will come to you!
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"LORD, you alone are my inheritance, my cup of blessing. You guard all that is mine.
The land you have given me is a pleasant land. What a wonderful inheritance!"
Relax! God's got you!
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ABSOLUTELY YES!
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Yes, you are redeemed and forgiven.
Yes, all of that is now in your past.
But your spouse still deserves to know what he/she is getting into.
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That would be a fraud!
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It needs to be done prayerfully and under the leading of the Holy Spirit.
A few questions to ask yourself before having "THE TALK"...
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Does he base his values on the Word of God?
Is he emotionally mature enough to handle this?
Has he shown enough commitment to the relationship to not cut and run on hearing this?
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(a) Don't rush it - take your time to make sure you are ready and he is ready - time reveals character.
(b) Pray it through and ask counsel from your pastor or trusted mentor who knows both of you very well...
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(d) Don't lie or tell half-truths. Those things have a nasty habit of popping out and biting you in the behind years down the line. It's not worth it.
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Better a broken relationship now than an acrimonious marriage or a broken home down the line.
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Any man that will leave you on account of your past does not deserve to be part of your future.
It may hurt in the short term, but you are better off without such a person in your life.
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What if you were raped or taken advantage of by someone?
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
You didn't commit any sin.
But your intending spouse should still be told based on the explanations I gave earlier.
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I hope it has been value for your time and data.
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Until I come your way on our next episode of #PastorExplainThis, stay safe and stay blessed!
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