But they don't THINK for themselves...
And they found empty, or dissatisfying, or flat out disappointing.
They are self-sufficient, but....
This realization is unsettling, a proverbial look in the mirror and seeing you've been deceived, but not knowing what to replace it with.
Agency at its most simple is self-determination
You will never have intuition nor instinct if you rely on others for decision making
Choices are fate, and a man's fate is not his own when choices are put upon him.