34.
I had moved into a new job after facing a toxic work environment.
I had gone through a spectrum of emotions. Ranging from resignation to fate to 'hey I'm better off than many people so let me not complain'.
I was still figuring life out. I wanted a child. Travel the world.
I had moved into a new job after facing a toxic work environment.
I had gone through a spectrum of emotions. Ranging from resignation to fate to 'hey I'm better off than many people so let me not complain'.
I was still figuring life out. I wanted a child. Travel the world.
Do things for my spouse. My family.
Amidst the shitstorm, there were things to look forward to.
34 is when a lot of people are figuring life out.
After getting into a frame of mind where there is a shred of empowerment to decide things for them selves after being force fed
Amidst the shitstorm, there were things to look forward to.
34 is when a lot of people are figuring life out.
After getting into a frame of mind where there is a shred of empowerment to decide things for them selves after being force fed
societal norms for almost 75% of those 34 years from 'well wishers'.
Study well. These are your career paths. These are your life paths. Marry on time. Have kids on time. Buy a house. Save. Close loans. Invest in savings. Invest in retirement plan. Save now. You can spend later.
Study well. These are your career paths. These are your life paths. Marry on time. Have kids on time. Buy a house. Save. Close loans. Invest in savings. Invest in retirement plan. Save now. You can spend later.
Don't touch this.. Don't take risks. Don't walk on that. Don't break rules...Don't wear that.. don't roam with that person...eat this...dont eat that....do's and don'ts. that's the instinct isn't it? Prescribe the Do's and villainize what you can't prescribe. Well intentioned,
perhaps, but we fail to see how debilitating it could be in so many cases.
Building self confidence takes a lot of time and effort for some and it is an on going process.
And here is a man whose life ended at 34.
I can't begin to imagine what was going through his mind.
Building self confidence takes a lot of time and effort for some and it is an on going process.
And here is a man whose life ended at 34.
I can't begin to imagine what was going through his mind.
How much pain he must be facing.
We are still a supremely risk averse, conservative society that looks at talking about mental health as a sign of weakness and likewise for sharing our vulnerabilities. I've been guilty. Of prescribing. Of not being a good listener.
We are still a supremely risk averse, conservative society that looks at talking about mental health as a sign of weakness and likewise for sharing our vulnerabilities. I've been guilty. Of prescribing. Of not being a good listener.
I'm trying to get better though. Miles to go but hopefully I'm getting better.
Next time, when someone opens up, resist. The urge to prescribe. The urge to correct. The urge to pick on semantics. The urge to sanitize the language into some political correctness.
Next time, when someone opens up, resist. The urge to prescribe. The urge to correct. The urge to pick on semantics. The urge to sanitize the language into some political correctness.
The urge to compare. Just listen. And if you can, give a hug. Tell them you're there for them any time.
The world needs positivity, openness and kindness more than ever. You will be missed, Sushant. But I hope we learn to do better as a society in the aftermath of this jolt.
The world needs positivity, openness and kindness more than ever. You will be missed, Sushant. But I hope we learn to do better as a society in the aftermath of this jolt.
I was fortunate to move towards a better frame of mind thanks to an amazing spouse. she has been by my side throughout the journey. could not have done this without her. if possible, find those you can trust. this may involve getting uncomfortable but it could help.
