Thread by @MavenOfMayhem

This is a thread with quotes from trans people who wish to anonymously share their struggles with the current level of transphobia in society but remain anonymous. I'll be updating it as needed.

If you wish to contribute, please feel free to DM me.

"I was always scared to be myself even at my college because so many are transphobic. Now that I have had to move back to the country in a southern state, I am terrified to even get a job not only because of COVID but for fear I will be harassed or worse." - a trans person

"It's really hard to see the way people like me are written about in the press as though it's a choice. Transitioning has cost me everything. It cost me my [career] which I now appear to be unemployable in, it's cost me my family, friends and [8-year relationship]" - N., trans

"My 19 year old son is trans and he is terrified of trying to apply for a job or pursue a career because he feels that he will be targeted with hate and discrimination. [...] He is afraid he will never have a normal happy life.'
- Parent of a young trans adult

"I'm not going to be able to start transitioning for at least a few more years because it'd be nearly impossible to get a job otherwise. I'm not allowed to be who I am AND have money to feed myself yet and it's crushing me."
- A., trans

"My cis boyfriend is terrified every time I [use a public bathroom] I "pass", but it's still scary. Even after 3 years. Current climate isn't helping:
9 to 5: working in healthcare with covid stress
5 to 9: dealing with transphobes all over my socials stress"
- M., trans

"My biggest issue is how people judge my relationship. We started dating after I came out as a trans man but he has started to notice that we get looks from people when we hold hands. Not sure if they are homophobic aimed at us and transphobic aimed at me."
- L., trans

"Since I transitioned, I’ve been unable to get a job for 5 years, expected to work for free, and received countless abuse, and death threats. It’s beyond exhausting and stressful. I just want to live my life in peace."
- S., a trans person

CW: Violence

"I was so anxious about presenting as a woman, that I decided to go out and “practice” at a drive thru at 10pm.

I was dragged from my car and beaten."
- J., trans

"I'm constantly terrified a customer will see me in the men's room and attack me. If that does happen, my job won't call it a hate crime. I'm objectified constantly (even though I'm sixteen) and I lost count how many times I've been told to smile by random men."
L., trans.

"I live in the Midwest. I'm not allowed to correct customers at my job when they call me "ma'am," and my co-workers refuse to correct themselves (except one)."
L., trans

"I lost my engagement to someone, two of my three siblings and their kids, and my ability to feel safe in public. The covid shutdown and associated isolation hardly changed my daily routine, in all honesty, as I rarely left my home unless it was necessary."
F., trans

"My dream-career as an actor will probably never happen. No one seems to believe me cause I pass. How it’s going now, I won’t have a job soon. I [grieve] the child I will never have. I think about it every week & feel a hopeless pain. I can’t adopt or have a surrogate."
T., Trans

"I'm 54, I told my wife I was trans 1.5yrs ago. She didn't throw me out, but hasn't accepted it yet. I doubt she ever will [...] The only thing I have is the trans Twitter community filled with beautiful, intelligent individuals that I follow to live vicariously through them"
-R.

"I'm a trans man. The transphobic climate at the moment is really affecting me. I'm really scared that the UK government will take my basic rights away, and make it impossible to feel safe in public by restricting access to single-sex spaces.
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[CW: suicide]

I'm having broken sleep, feeling really down and have had suicidal thoughts. I'm having counselling and feel supported, but things are really scary right now, and it feels exhausting as the same 'debates' are happening over and over again."
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- K., trans man

“I feel like my entire life revolves around defending myself and protecting others. My family, colleagues and partner can’t even fathom the stress I’m under on a daily basis. I feel like a broken record. When will it stop?”
- A Trans guy

"I'm a 19 year old trans girl, and I try my hardest to be strong and positive, but it's so hard to do so seeing how horrible this world is to people like me. I'm afraid I won't get a job, I'm afraid I won't make friends, I'm afraid I won't have a future."

"I'm 19 and I'm terrified of transitioning, I'm afraid I'll never be able to get a job or live a normal life simply because people hate me for being me"
- a nonbinary person

"I’m in a bar with a guy friend who knew me long before I came out. Every hour, he has to message his wife to reassure her that he hasn’t been beaten up for hanging out with me. He doesn’t have to do that when he’s with his cis friends."
- a trans woman

"I'm too afraid to even admit that to most people that I'm not cis or even do anything related to transitioning due to how much it seems the world is against trans people"
- M, a trans person

"I'm worried and scared that I'll never be able to openly use my chosen (true) name and pronouns because it will somehow get back to my family or my family's church. if they ever found out, I'd likely end up dead or institutionalized."
- a trans person

"When I step out in public, I feel like a monstrous creature from a fantasy novel whom just walked in to a village. People stare, gossip, judge, laugh, cringe, avoid being near me & people who have to interact with me are visibly uncomfortable. Its dehumanizing."
- a trans person