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Jul 14, 2020 9 tweets 2 min read Read on X
Let’s talk about accountability. Let’s talk about the fact that there is no harm that can be neatly wrapped in a box with a bow or told so that it makes us feel good and comfortable. 1/
And if it’s doing those things, there’s truth missing. If it’s doing these things, we have an opportunity to reflect on why our takeaway from a person’s experience with harm is that we feel good or that we feel comfortable. 2/
We all experience harm and we all cause harm. None of us are immune. The process to seeking out repair, to acknowledging what has been done to us and what we have done to others is not linear, it doesn’t always look the same, and the folks who have been hurt don’t all... 3/
need the same things from us when we make mistakes. Being accountable means adapting to the needs of the person or people we have hurt. 4/
It means intervening in our tendency to try to center our embarrassment or our shame in someone else’s revelation of the mistakes that we’ve made. 5/
The difference between a just community where harm happens and an unjust community where harm happens is the willingness to accept accountability and to design protocols on paper that define how we will choose to be brave when, not if, but when we make mistakes. 6/
As individual people, who make up communities and organizations, it’s also deciding how we are approaching our own healing and how we are seeking to commit to caring for ourselves and healing ourselves from the harm that we have also been caused. 7/
Because harm left unattended, left unspoken, left pretended as if it never even happened, always comes to the surface and often it comes to the surface to cause even more harm. 8/
We can choose courage and it won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. And by choosing courage, we choose accountability. We choose harm reduction. We choose repair. We choose honesty. We choose justice.

That’s #BoundaryWork. 9/

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Oct 4, 2020
Why with anti-oppression work are you still relying on oppressive RFP processes? You’re asking BIPOC consultants to spend hours on proposals unpaid. Why? What’s equitable about unpaid labor?
Here’s what I would suggest instead:

1.) Do your research. Pick 3-5 consultants you would like to work with.

2.) Invite them to a paid interview. Ask them for their hourly rate and schedule an hour to discuss your needs/your vision.

3.) Decide on an honorarium for a proposal.
4.) The honorarium should be dependent on how much information you’re requesting about the consultants methodology and process.

5.) Keep your requests simple. You don’t need a 20 page proposal - I don’t care how large your organization is. That’s not necessary.
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Oct 3, 2020
I’m partnering with @projectinclude to lead research that looks at how remote workplaces within tech have changed since COVID-19. 1/
We’re currently leading qualitative and quantitative research to understand how employees across intersections of race, gender, class, disability, etc., are experiencing online workplaces. 2/
We are looking closely at harassing behavior, ranging from inappropriate comments to harmful behavior based on a person’s race, gender, sexual orientation, and other identities. 3/
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Sep 27, 2020
I designed and am leading a four-part action mapping program on anti-racism and transformative organizing for the Association of College & Research Libraries. After one of my sessions this week, I got an email just as I was closing up my laptop for the night. 1/
The email was from a person thanking me for the presentation and noting a conversation we had during the program about a quote from Desmond Tutu where he says:
"If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor... 2/
If an elephant has its foot on the tail of a mouse and you say that you are neutral, the mouse will not appreciate your neutrality." I asked this person if I could have their consent to share their email anonymously and they said that I could so I am sharing it here. 3/
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Aug 18, 2020
When we uplift the knowledge and experiences of leaders just because they are Black, or just because they are queer, or just because they are women, we set ourselves up to put white supremacy culture on repeat. 1/
Being Black doesn't mean that a person is dedicated to eradicating Black communities of anti-Blackness. Being queer doesn't mean that a person cares deeply about the wellbeing and safety of queer people. 2/
Being a woman does not mean that a person is committed to learning how to love and care for women in a world where patriarchy punishes us for doing so. 3/
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Aug 16, 2020
One of the many ways that perfectionism hurts us as Black and Brown people is by leading us to believe that we can escape the impacts of our trauma in this world. I've come to the realization that we cannot. 1/
When we're younger, it's easier to mask the ways we are negatively impacted by white supremacy. It's easier to compartmentalize the impacts of our marginalization on us. Sometimes, we hide it so well that we forget that it is even there, that we forget who we actually are... 2/
what we actually dream of, how we actually feel.

But as we begin to grow older, as we begin to grow old, the body has a way of pushing for a resurgence of trauma so that we can feel our pain and heal from it. 3/
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Aug 11, 2020
With this announcement of Kamala Harris as Biden’s VP, I just want to acknowledge that there will be people who will be severely disappointed by this choice because of Kamala’s history with policing and prisons. 1/
There will be people who will be excited because they like Kamala and like what she stands for.

There will be people who will be neither happy nor disappointed about the announcement because they are just trying to get through another day in this world in which we live. 2/
People find and hold onto hope in their own way. We don’t have to put folks down for being excited, disappointed, angry, sad, or numb over this announcement. We can offer each other grace. 3/
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