For the patriarchy to work, men had to give a little bit of power to some women, convince them that it was "reward" for being submissive, loyal, and obedient. Made them feel special, then put them in charge of keeping other women in line. This happens a lot in religious settings.
It's basically how, during slavery, some slaves were made "drivers" by their masters, and given the power to supervise (and even punish) other slaves. It gave the other slaves the impression that if they remained "submissive" and "loyal", someday, they too, would be promoted.
Take Christianity as an example. Their holy book says that women shouldn't be allowed to be leaders in the church, but somehow they've succeeded in making them deacons, prophetesses, and general overseers. Just a little power though, not too much, so they don't grow big wings.
Truth is; men know that the day women decide to jump off the religion wagon, that's the day religion dies! Religion won't survive without women. Let me repeat it: NO RELIGION ON THIS EARTH CAN SURVIVE WITHOUT WOMEN. And it's just so sad that men know this, and women don't.
