“People often think of trauma as a discrete event — a fire, getting mugged. But what it’s really about is helplessness, about being on the receiving end of forces you can’t control."
Our national narrative has never had room for helplessness, & I've felt it acutely often since March. This can magnify the effect of experiencing it. I am def hitting the wall after 4 mos of overfunctioning, & I've talked w a few folks w/in last week in sim spots. #NotOK
And I'll add that I fully recognize the many ways in which I am comparatively fortunate or privileged right now, so I'm not trying to minimize others' plights. But just saying "you too? yeah, same here." to our common struggle w the trauma of living in America in 2020
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Why do people leave a community? Many reasons, but one that I’ve recently gained insight into is that people leave when they no longer see a vision for or room for their future self - who they want to be and are already becoming. True for me w cities, jobs, & recently a church.
The problem is NOT that leaders need to do more “visioncasting.” This problem is usually the result of leaders or a community having too narrow a vision - defining itself too tightly around one way of being that chokes out room for other ways of being.
In this way, a vision that’s too narrow, a demand for conformity (usually to mimic the leader) leads to a monoculture, stripping the community’s soil of complementary plants that would keep it healthy. Monocultures may seem efficient, but never last & leave the soil poisoned.
A brief photo history of that church, which has consistently led social justice work in SoCal since my great uncle's leadership. Opposition to Vietnam & Iraq Wars, care for Latinos & AIDS patients, ordination of women, blessing LGBT unions, etc. flickr.com/photos/1019345…