Before you decide the best way to pour liquid from one vessel to another first ask yourself, "Do I absolutely need to do this?"
"is there risk of causing damage to the vessel?"
"Will all the liquid fit?"
"Is the vessel leaky?"
vessel=student
liquid=instruction
I want to clarify this metaphor because I wrote it poorly. The key I was focusing on is, "is this absolutely necessary?"
Using sharp utensils and traffic safety are absolutely necessary. I need to be able to pass down at least some of my instruction on such topics.
Adults, in my experience, have a habit of looking at *everything* we want kids to do is absolutely necessary. I wanted to challenge that.
There are many instances where not only is my instruction unnecessary but it's actually damaging.
But maybe the metaphor is still trash even with this clarification. Maybe I should delete it, but the conversation has been helpful for me so I'll leave it up.
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If you’ve read this already I hope you’ll share some of your favorite insights from the book. Were there any aha moments for you?
I question a lot more than I used to why I’m inclined to trust some authors over others. I’m learning more how to question my biases along the way instead of assuming they are true.
I’ll likely share quotes from this book as I get through it. I wonder if it would be better to share in a single thread or would they better stand on their own?
It's worth looking at a few reviews for context. I want to document a few scathing reviews first.
If we want to reduce the level of anxiety parents feel about child benchmarks we may want to shift from a "learn xyz by age lmnop" to "age lmnop could be a great time to explore xyz."
I seriously feel less anxious just typing it.
This problem isn’t just in one area. Pediatricians implant this anxiety a little. Then seeing your brother’s child walk earlier causes more.
Then aunts and uncles imply worry when they ask, “are they doing blank yet?!”
Out of his decades of counseling experience William Glasser in 1998 wrote, “The vast majority of family unhappiness is the result of well-intentioned parents trying to make children do what they don’t want to do. And in search of freedom, children, resist their parents efforts.”
He goes on to emphasize a key principle or axiom of his approach to counseling:
We can not control the behavior of another person, even a child; the only thing we can do is give them information.
If he was right, then it begs us to ask ourselves, “what information is my behavior communicating to my child?”
What is criticism, nagging, bribes, and punishments communicating?
What if the information is, “I don’t like you the way you are?”