A sybil attack in this context is when an attacker attempts to flood coinjoin rounds with their own transactions. This can allow them to track their target user(s) through process of elimination.
Both samourai & wasabi attempt to make this type of attack expensive by incorporating a coinjoin fee.
Wasabi actually has a reverse incentive that rewards them with higher fee revenue if they attempt to sybil or pump liquidity into the system since fees by users scale up with the number of utxos in a round.
Let's circle back to item (3) in this thread. A key aspect of sybil resistance is the amount of liquidity from sources acting in "good faith." Liquidity not controlled by an attacker.
Samourai whirlpool is compromised of two types of users. Those doing on-demand coinjoin and those locking up liquidity 24/7 to participate in free remixes.
Connecting to your own node or a friend's node is easy in samourai. You simply scan a QR code connecting it through Tor.