Knowing when you are in anxiety's grip is not as easy as we might think. One sign is that you no longer notice God's presence.
Chronic Anxiety has a gospel, various forms of 'its all on you' along with some messages of doom. Your inner critic is often the messenger boy.
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If you can begin to notice when you no longer notice God's presence, when you act like it is all on you, you can pause, talk a deep breath or five and remember two great realities:
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1. It is not all on you. God is with you.
2. Better yet, God is already at work in the situation you're anxious about. You will enter a situation where God is and is already at work.
So often we think we're 'bringing God with us.' Nope. God is already there.
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I live in the Denver area, also known as 'a church planter's favorite place to try.' The unchurched % around here is high, so lots of church planters come. Almost all of them, very sharp and decent people. Gospel people.
A handful of them send their flyers ahead of time.
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I get a flyer in my mailbox about an upcoming church launch. Great! We need more Gospel churches.
3 or 4 of the flyers have actually said, 'We are bringing God to the Front Range of Colorado.'
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But God has been here a good while already. Philip and Janet Yancey moved here in the 90s. I think we can agree that God has been here at least since Philip Yancey arrived.
Richard Foster has been here since the 70s, I think. Don't you think God showed up at least then?
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Tongue in cheek of course. Church planting has enough pressure without the false pressure of carrying God.
God is unfettered and free and sovereign. As you plant that much needed church, you can relax in the knowledge that God has been at work here for a while.
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What pressures are you carrying? How do you know if you are not well? Sometimes you need to ask a friend.
Tending to your soul, relaxing into the presence of God will make you more effective, more present to what God is doing in your midst.
Peace be with you.
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One of my clients was talking about a newly formed staff meeting and one team member's tendency to critique and shut down others' ministry approaches. Ie, they not only didn't like the approach, they found it utterly wrong.
They were utterly wrong.
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It reminded me of the HIGH importance of the team leader managing anxiety in a staff. When one person 'pounces on a peer' and it is left untreated in the room, the staff will no longer show up as themselves.
It is on the leader to redistribute the anxiety.
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Typically the 'pounce' is spoken in a way that communicates, 'this is the end of the matter.'
People who are rigid communicators, people who speak emphatically, who aggressively critique another in public....they communicate 'no one else gets to say anything.'
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One of the most powerful ways to practice #differentiation is through the lens of responsibility. What is mine to carry, what is theirs, what is God's? Not an easy question to answer, but always worth a pause and reflection.
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When we're in anxiety's grip, we tend toward hiding, avoiding or blaming or, yikes, the trifecta of all three. But practicing differentiation forces us to clarify responsibility. The authors of Scripture remind us again and again that we can control one thing: self.
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So we can make a list of the things we are anxious about and then a check box set of columns.
How much control do I have over what I am anxious about?
We get reactive when we don't get a false need that feels like a real need.
What do you think you need that you don't really need?
We all have dozens of false needs and when we don't wrangle our many false need, they pile up and get the better of us and wear us out.
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Some of my false needs: 1. I need everyone I meet to like or approve of me. 2. I need to be understood. 3. I need to make the person in front of me feel better. 4. I need to always know what to say or do in any situation. You MUST see me as a smart person.
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We end up getting bigger or smaller than human sized.
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Some of us, when we are reactive get 'bigger.' We must have the last word. We no longer listen to learn, we now listen to advise, fix, correct, or mansplain. We get aggressive, we dominate the space. Some of us literally make ourselves bigger.
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Some of us get smaller than human sized. We no longer feel safe to be exactly ourselves in that space. We do not speak up in the meeting, we flatter rather than tell the truth, we get quiet.
Some of course get bigger or smaller, depending on the circumstance and people.
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