I don't get why we hold on stubbornly to some of them as if they've made our society or our lives any better as a people.
For me, it has always been a symbol of ownership. And of course we have lots of "stupid men" that have exploited that symbolism.
You'd hear something like "she is a graduate, that is why the bride price is high."And all the hogwash traditional appendages that goes with it
Then the two families meet to give their "assent" to the marriage of the two prospective couple in a "traditional setting."
Igbo man bring kolanut or anything you feel like. Me the TIV man bring Yam and something else.
We eat,merry, take pictures
And that is about that. You don't have to pay me some "symbolic money" at all. I don't get why you have to pay me for my daughter eh.
We must start adapting cultures, identities and meanings that fit into the realities of OUR OWN world. Traditions should serve us, we don't serve tradition