Sometimes you have to live it to believe it. My 5y son is also the only “black” boy of his class (and almost the only one in this school with his 3,5 years brother)
He has been bullied for 2 years because of his hair...
Last week for the first day at school, we found him like😳
He has been bullied for 2 years because of his hair...
Last week for the first day at school, we found him like😳
https://twitter.com/UjuAnya/status/1303365586622312448
Even if you don’t call out racism and just talk about bullying, people (parents, some teachers) say that these are just accidents, that we exaggerate...
People usually reverse the thing which turns this into a double penalty.
1. You are victim of an ugly thing. And then 2. you are accused of exaggeration.
1. You are victim of an ugly thing. And then 2. you are accused of exaggeration.
It’s always “accidents”. Always with the 3 same child. Always against our son.
Last week he cried an hour before he could sleep.
And we’ve been told again that it was an accident. Everyone is covering one to another. The school fears violence and legal stuffs...
Last week he cried an hour before he could sleep.
And we’ve been told again that it was an accident. Everyone is covering one to another. The school fears violence and legal stuffs...
When I asked the dean to split this group of bullying child into various classes, I’ve been told that it will be complicated for many reasons and all they can do is to move my son into another class. 😡
I could felt a kind of shame experienced by the dean and some parents.
With a:” that can’t be true” as a consequence/conclusion.
“We understand your concerns, but it can’t be that. There is no such things as racism in our school of the french republic...” 🤔
With a:” that can’t be true” as a consequence/conclusion.
“We understand your concerns, but it can’t be that. There is no such things as racism in our school of the french republic...” 🤔
And now, some parents (that have been told the stories by other parents) are asking their child not to play with our son: their former friend...
This is so unfair. I want to burn down all this into the ground. 🤬😥
This is so unfair. I want to burn down all this into the ground. 🤬😥
Last WE, I shown “the karate kid” to my son (the chinese/kung fu version with Jaden Smith and Jakie Chan). A young black boy moving into China and bullied by big boys in his new school.
After that, my son asked me to teach him kung-fu in order to be able to defense himself. 😉
After that, my son asked me to teach him kung-fu in order to be able to defense himself. 😉
Thanks for your numerous supportive (and sometimes private) messages. Some of you advised me to move out of this area but I don’t think it can change a lot.
The irony is that we pick that “village” near Paris 4 years ago in order to “save” my 2 first sons (18 and 15 today).
The irony is that we pick that “village” near Paris 4 years ago in order to “save” my 2 first sons (18 and 15 today).
Indeed, we were happily living in a ‘popular/difficult’ district near Porte de la Chapelle (my sons being at school at ‘Barbes’ ;-) but we decided to quit it after realizing that my 2 first sons started to taste...
... more and more some jail (GAV) experiences with their young friends (this was basically the origin of all my grey hairs 😂).
No racism among child at school at the time in the ghetto (more than 16 different nationality in their class 😄).
The first time they met racism was when they were facing policemen 🤦♂️, and they also learned how to defend themselves collectively, with their friends 😉.
The first time they met racism was when they were facing policemen 🤦♂️, and they also learned how to defend themselves collectively, with their friends 😉.
But year after year it was more and more difficult to teach them what was right and wrong
=> our decision to move out and land in a calm “village” near Paris. Without our help, they would probably end up like some of their friends (currently in jail unfortunately 😢).
=> our decision to move out and land in a calm “village” near Paris. Without our help, they would probably end up like some of their friends (currently in jail unfortunately 😢).
But we were far from expecting our 2 last sons (5 and 3,5) to experience such "peer pressure" and "gestures of friendship" to celebrate their “difference” in this very "calm" village. 😳
Instead of getting back into our previous popular district, we will try to help them to learn how to defend by themselves
(almost all my POC friends told me that they have learned to scare and to really physically hurt racist people so that they stop bullying them) and to be proud of who they are.
And to continue to say outloud and to talk to us and other people (including adults) whenever they feel bad or they witness something wrong (what they do really well actually ;-)
We will continue to see our old friends (and all their child that are friends with our sons) from other district, we will also continue to learn our kids to refuse anyone to change/drive/decide who they are and what they want to become.
They will realize soon enough the social impact of the environment on us, but the later will be the better IMO.
They will do some sports in another (and more popular) area, to have different friends and to realize that life is more diverse than this village.
I will teach them how to fight back (only to defend themselves) and to be good at it 😉
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