I am sympathetic to trans people, but transgenderism is largely incomprehensible to me.

The crux of confusion: What does a gender "feel" like? How can someone know what it feels like to be the opposite sex (or even their own - given that they have never been anything else)?
My understanding is that trans people *wish* they were in the social role or physical body of the opposite sex.

That's it though: it is a powerful desire. It doesn't reflect reality or what they actually are, but clearly gives them serious discomfort.
So the nice thing to do is to go by the requested pronouns, provided they aren't too absurd. This is usually pretty difficult for me, as most trans people I've met do not pass at all.

But I try, for the sake of their discomfort. I do not do so because it feels true to me.

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