Thread by @Kathy_Bramley

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman Keep trying. I am making some headway. Still pre-assessment. I think there is a way to meet in the middle.

Everyone knows that there are many ways to see the same facts often. And that emotional/sensory/anxious/nervy responses are a fact of life that can become practical issues.

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman We can remind people & challenge assumptions, challenge general patterns of punitive/dismissive/suppressive reactions. Or find and use our own power and means to reinforce a point.
However I hate it when everything feels like melee & doubled down. Not 100% catastrophising there!?

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman On schoolwork right up to failing uni, I always got ´needs to be better presented and more logically structured´ - got misunderstood and comments about colloquialisms (echolalia/stock phrases?), about tangents, idealism, but also impressively thoughtful/insightful & passionate...

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman Those practical barriers went virtually unaddressed, I was unable or too scared to tackle stuff/ask for support, didnt think they were able to give it nor able to see me as able to improve/fit the box - even if that was because they did not like to be mean fascists re the boxes!?

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman Challenging, delving into the whole conceptual framework around those boxes & rubrics, their ideas of how grammar, educational performance and the system works? Pushing into ableist assumptions/forces there, without dx, the very points authority figures were sensitive about!?😬🤯

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman These are the challenges, barriers and edifices I am up against talking to the teachers then and also throughout my 42 years talking to friends and loved ones, peers etc *with* the emotional dysregulation and the effect it has on relationships, trust & social standing. 🎉🤣 /s

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman /s = space-saving code some other autistics use more than I do informing the reader of sarcasm: emojis were an amused sarcastic yay. Because it is ALL a bit much. And that is what I was saying with the other emojis, the (pain/sadness/anxious) grimace and exploding head.

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman I still over-edit and get lost in trying to be complete or correct, am not good with pragmatics, what is most important to the listener and how I handle criticism. I think I clutter & do circumstantiality & pedantic speech, to chuck out some *terms* &/or I start with anger/panic?

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman Because I think ´oo, they want to know about human things´- also I get angry, despairing, panicky, emotionally dysphoric thinking about the person I want to talk to in particular ways in ruminating & working up the motivation to have the important conversation.🤣 I am so easy! 🤣

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman But even all of that does not make it hopeless with some kind of equally natural finality. It can´t.

@TentacleBunnyTV @Joseph_wolfstar @AspieHuman @threadreaderapp please unroll