Everyone knows that there are many ways to see the same facts often. And that emotional/sensory/anxious/nervy responses are a fact of life that can become practical issues.
@TentacleBunnyTV@Joseph_wolfstar@AspieHuman We can remind people & challenge assumptions, challenge general patterns of punitive/dismissive/suppressive reactions. Or find and use our own power and means to reinforce a point.
However I hate it when everything feels like melee & doubled down. Not 100% catastrophising there!?
@TentacleBunnyTV@Joseph_wolfstar@AspieHuman On schoolwork right up to failing uni, I always got ´needs to be better presented and more logically structured´ - got misunderstood and comments about colloquialisms (echolalia/stock phrases?), about tangents, idealism, but also impressively thoughtful/insightful & passionate...
@TentacleBunnyTV@Joseph_wolfstar@AspieHuman Those practical barriers went virtually unaddressed, I was unable or too scared to tackle stuff/ask for support, didnt think they were able to give it nor able to see me as able to improve/fit the box - even if that was because they did not like to be mean fascists re the boxes!?
@TentacleBunnyTV@Joseph_wolfstar@AspieHuman Challenging, delving into the whole conceptual framework around those boxes & rubrics, their ideas of how grammar, educational performance and the system works? Pushing into ableist assumptions/forces there, without dx, the very points authority figures were sensitive about!?😬🤯
@TentacleBunnyTV@Joseph_wolfstar@AspieHuman These are the challenges, barriers and edifices I am up against talking to the teachers then and also throughout my 42 years talking to friends and loved ones, peers etc *with* the emotional dysregulation and the effect it has on relationships, trust & social standing. 🎉🤣 /s
@TentacleBunnyTV@Joseph_wolfstar@AspieHuman /s = space-saving code some other autistics use more than I do informing the reader of sarcasm: emojis were an amused sarcastic yay. Because it is ALL a bit much. And that is what I was saying with the other emojis, the (pain/sadness/anxious) grimace and exploding head.
@TentacleBunnyTV@Joseph_wolfstar@AspieHuman I still over-edit and get lost in trying to be complete or correct, am not good with pragmatics, what is most important to the listener and how I handle criticism. I think I clutter & do circumstantiality & pedantic speech, to chuck out some *terms* &/or I start with anger/panic?
@TentacleBunnyTV@Joseph_wolfstar@AspieHuman Because I think ´oo, they want to know about human things´- also I get angry, despairing, panicky, emotionally dysphoric thinking about the person I want to talk to in particular ways in ruminating & working up the motivation to have the important conversation.🤣 I am so easy! 🤣
I think maybe describing yourself/ourselves as a personality stack, maybe like a burger, could be helpful. That doesn't mean that you have the ability to describe every slice or element all the time but that it's a manageable concept to play with and develop!?
My bun is autistic, specifically a tendency to overspeak sometimes, to overshare/go low, and to pedantic speech with additional speech pathology, mh & academic problems, thinking/datahandling & physical coordination issues, but it's still a rich bun. Brioche. Ponderous. Parent!?
It's more complex than that. But that's the surface that most people see!? Inside that we have the things that I may think of as most fundamental to me specifically. At the base. And less so as we move up. But then maybe lettuce & sauce are just as fundamental? Choices. Dr Panda?
My husband's talking about old news: Larium the anti-malarial that caused severe mental health episodes in a substantial percentage of people. Gulf War syndrome & Larium antimalarial were linked. He remembers old discussion. Soldiers binned it, often. Rumoured link to a massacre
where a young male soldier shot six Iraqis because he was hallucinating & FUBAR on Larium.
Husband thinks it made his mother unwell too.
Quickly developed by US military, passed on to private company for distribution, it wasn't investigated enough, third stage trials delayed.
And I think it could be convenient for some, some top brass militarists like a bit of chaos in their system even whilst many professionally prefer order, a bit of fear & loathing oils the wheels of war probably, creates projects & heroes, but not in any ultimately good way.
Clinical authoratative tone, mood, register (whatevs) in combination with formal nouns/noun phrases communicate blame, conflict & diminishment inherently except for the security of how your interests are placed in perceived context: psychology, MDs, friends, family, community MMV
It's in the word choices, their nuance, speech rhythms that come over in text and indeed the social standing & whether that role is perceived & played as one of censure or expert collaboration. Or potentially could be - strangers have outsized impact; a risk-focused instinct!?🤷
So it's particularly sensitive & difficult to talk about difficulties & disorders in a detached, impersonal general way: whether that's in an article or book for public consumption, in research papers, programme designs or in clinic.
*Disclaimers don't work* They're so cheap!🤦🤷
Eye contact is different for different people and oversimplified. Some people find it uncomfortable, it can also seem like flirting or sexual interest as actually normal eye contact isn't constant & direct. It's a few seconds when you make a point? Like hugging & physical contact
it has a rhythm!? It's the timing or extended length of time that makes it more likely to seem sexual.
Looking at the bridge of the nose or being slightly zoomed out but not in a dreamy way when actually interested can reduce the discomfiting intensity but still seems polite?
Charity/Taxes 1. Discussion as to how we avoid being Stazi or Magdalene Nuns or Gotham baddies
2. Still leave some room for narratives that go somewhere inside of a realistic idea of an evolving complex polycentric internationalist (free/collaborative) socialism. As a setting.
Capital vs Society 1. What does capital mean? 2. What are social behaviours? 3. What is society?
Neighbour/enemy: Have a collection of random objects in the room and some sticky labels - tag them up with a glossary. Also have some rope or string or looped elastic to draw venn diagrams with.