the other day, a simple reminder of trans existence prompted one cis person to remove themself from the group chat, + another to center their own experiences/feelings to the point of mocking.

we need to talk about peddling transphobic rhetoric.

(a thread on inclusive language)
* please note: this is NOT a subtweet directed at the specific people involved (who were blocked during the incident anyway) OR the group admin (who reacted correctly + works very hard to provide a safe/inclusive environment for the members). this is about our community. *

2/
a basic understanding to start with: every individual has the intrinsic right to identify as + be addressed as they wish.

if someone informs you their pronouns are they/them, it's then on you to address them as such, no matter the effort. the same of course for any pronouns.

3/
when pronouns are ignored, trans people are forced to pour excess labor into asserting their basic needs. they experience blows to their self-confidence, sense of security, + any feeling of stability in society.

this is something cis people cannot personally comprehend.

4/
when trans folks are self-advocating in these situations, cis people can be quick to call it unreasonable to request basic respect. it must be understood how drastic + essential inclusivity is to trans survival.

to read: basic ally guide
transequality.org/issues/resourc…

5/
trans people are often left out of the narrative whether it be everyday conversation, media, or legislation. imagine that isolation + its impact on mental health.

to read: trans exclusion
metro.co.uk/2019/02/01/tra…

6/
non-binary people are pointedly excluded in many ways. common phrases, such as "ladies and gentlemen", reinforce the expectation to commit to the binary.

it is extremely uncomfortable + invalidating as individuals to be grouped in with either category.

7/
instead, you can say "everyone" to address a group of people. yes, it's that simple! "everyone" explicitly includes all the people you're talking to, with no one left feeling disconnected or pushed to adhere to the binary.

to read: inclusive language
lgbt.umd.edu/good-practices…

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TLDR; it's essential to the community that everyone (especially allies) work on dismantling the need to force gender comformity + cisnormativity. one aspect is reducing gendered language output.

include trans/non-binary people in your narrative.

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