I remember that I received so much kindness from a person during a low moment in my life, and I was so grateful, that I loved them more for it. And when the dynamic of our relationship took a step back from kindness, I couldn’t detach from recalling that moment.
I was stuck in a bad place longer than necessary because of this moment that was very kind.
And it made me realize just how much receiving kindness could be very blinding, especially when it’s needed.
That I was so grateful for it that my response to it was feeling indebted.
I would see things that I disliked, and then remember the kindness and make excuses for it.
“Maybe, they are having a rough day”
“Maybe, I’m being too sensitive.”

Surely that kindness means they are a caring person, if it changed, then maybe I am doing something wrong.
When i think back on the kindness I received that meant so much to me, it was something that I too would do for a person I cared about. My appreciation for it went beyond what it should. I didn’t know then that receiving kindness could also be manipulative.
My point is, people once being nice or kind to you, is lovely, but if their behavior changes gradually or even abruptly, pay attention.

The kindness they once showed is not a debt you have to pay to them.

Sometimes people use acts of kindness to get you attached to them.
Also, we are all deserving of consistency in acts of kindness. Because we live in such a hard world, we are so often blown away by crumbs of decency. It’s lovely to be appreciative, but never at your own peril. Thank you for your kindness, but I am outta here if it changes.

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12 Sep
I find religious men to be a red flag. A bright red one. Especially religious men who are patriarchal and believe in their dominance over women. The ones who prioritize being heads over the homes, and speak about submission. The ones who call you their rib, and their helpmeets.
A religious man is very often misogynistic, and worse, believes he has the authority of God to back him up.

He not only believes in where he stands, which is above you, he is certain that God placed him there to guide and lead you.

Which to me is very delusional & dangerous.
The misogynistic religious man is more worried about keeping up appearances, and being perceived as an authority figure over his family, than caring about their mental (and physical) well being.
Also worrisome, is how lauded he is by others for being religious.
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19 Jun
Misogyny really makes fools out of seemingly intelligent men.
Buying into an idea that you are superior to someone else, and not subject to the same level of criticism, just because you are born ______, will always have you looking ignorant, and will leave you forever stagnant.
You tell me some man is Brillant, and then I see that he invests in feeling naturally superior to an entire gender of people, whose individual skills & abilities he has yet to learn, let alone measure in comparison to his own...how am I not going to think that he is a dumbass?
That’s literally like walking into a classroom and thinking that because you carry a green folder, you and other green folder carrying people are smarter, should occupy all the leadership positions and deserve more allowances.
Clearly green folder people are greedy idiots.
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