Men afraid that if they truly cared for their women, they'll be abandoned for men who give less/or more: Women afraid that if they grew with a man, he'll leave for women who give less later. But they are both seeking true love & could swear people are no longer real out here.
How're you supposed to find real when your mind is made up that there isn't real? It's not that loyalty & commitment ended with our fathers/mothers. They say men from the past were so secure & women so committed. I think they were just risk-takers.
They had intention. Something that most lack today. We wrap insecurity in so many jargons: to help us sleep at night. The need to police the future comes from a scarcity mindset. Things happen; people leave. But you are living in the now, why are you so afraid, sister? Why, bro?
Live your life. Enjoy it. Find someone you care about, give it your best. If it doesn't work out, move. Someone should do you wrong. So that you learn one truth you don't believe in at the moment: That time heals all. Take a leap of faith. You'll live.

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There are still good men. In the millions. Men with a sense of purpose. Men with a grasp of responsibility. Men who sleep late & wake up early, just in time to catch their dreams. Non-violent men. But you'll have to stop existing within trauma bonds to find them. Circles matter.
Friends you have affect your perception of men. If among your 10 friends, 7 identify themselves through pain of loss/heartbreaks, you will be the 8th. If you associate with women who are making it work, you'll be the next. There's no glory in holding onto pain when you're hurting
It's like existing in a team of losers & wondering why you won't win. Because loss is your collective identity. They too are on the hunt for winners to save them from that loop of dysfunction. They'll never hook you up with good men coz if you left, the loop shrinks. Crabs.
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Anyway, before I log out. Let me tell you about the one time my uncle Geoffrey came to visit with his girlfriend Sarah Headrick from Mississipi. They had moved in together, and had wanted to introduce her to my grandparents. It ended in tears for everybody. And I mean everybody.
I personally knew something was wrong when they passed by our house & there was a goat with headphones in the backseat. Geoffrey wanted us to leave the goat behind as we went for a tour in the park when Sarah started crying. We left the goat anyway. Goat didn't seem to mind
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Can you imagine that the entire milk shelves in Supermarkets belongs to one man? Across the country. Every milk product you buy will be his. Such concentrated power is deadly. Soon, he'll own the entire supermarket aisles. On Game theory terms, that is catastrophic.
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For the rich, any transaction with the poor is not an attempt at friendship. But the opportunity to reinforce superiority/power. That's why many of you retain pictures you took with celebrities on your profiles and in your house walls, but they have none of you. Scarcity mindset.
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