Premise 1: People are inherently plural, each variant adapted to a particular context. Different parts of yourself are expressed and suppressed in different contexts. You are literally different people at work, with friends, with family
Premise 2: Computers hate that, and the nature of social media in particular is that of creating a single consistent identity. A terrifying Zuckerbergian ideal that you have a single consistent and whole "true self" that is equivalent to your public persona.
Premise 3: This is then exacerbated by audience. A public figure is cocreated by their audience and their expectations - they learn what creates good responses, and what creates bad ones. The audience learns how they will behave, and stabilises them in that role.
THEREFORE, a twitter account is necessarily a relatively stable context in which for you to be. It may take a while to grow into it, but over time you wear a groove. You create the Twitter account, and you become the Twitter account whether you like it or not.
This is not intrinsically harmful, but particularly in 2020 or for anyone who is otherwise socially isolated, Twitter ends up fairly socially and psychologically load-bearing. It becomes a major mode of expression where the things you express there can flourish disproportionately
But this creates a stuck state. You lose your natural fluidity. People were not meant to be consistent - it stifles parts of yourself that need expressing because you only express the bits your audience wants. The rest goes into your shadow, where it festers.
As a result, tweeting without an alt is a form of psychological self-harm, and I cannot encourage it.
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People always lie about appropriate social norms because they omit the step where you're supposed to read their mind and based on the information revealed to you there do the thing that they wanted.
This isn't even exaggeration. The social norm really is that you're supposed to read people's minds, because neurotypicals are under the mistaken impression that they can do that, and as a result are under the mistaken impression that what they want is obvious.
Ought doesn't imply can, it just implies that other people believe you can.
For reasons I might be less likely to want to tweet controversial things right now and so might stick to sensible safe topics for a while.
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No, fuck that, lets do a thread about sexuality hacking.
By "sexuality hacking" I mean anything you do to yourself to try and change your sexual interests. I'm almost exclusively interested in *broadening* sexual interests - I don't think narrowing them is desirable, and I suspect if it's possible then it's intrinsically traumatic.
IMPORTANT DISCLAIMER: Nobody under any circumstances has any obligation to change their sexuality. I do not believe you can coerce people into doing this, and you shouldn't try because it's horribly unethical. This is for self-directed consensual use.
91. Which fictional characters would you love to be if ethics permitted you? What needs are you failing to express as a result of holding on to those ethical constraints?
92. What do people tell you about yourself that you refuse to believe? What does not believing that protect you from?
93. What things in your life do you not feel allowed to complain about?
In the context I saw this, it was being painted as a gendered difference. I think it is, but not for the reasons people are treating it as.
The actual reason is that we've put the boundaries of "thinking" in the wrong place.
We tend to only consider it "thinking" if you're doing it on your own off in your own head, but almost everything you do involves thinking, and many other modes of thinking succeed even by the standards you'd want to judge "real thinking" by, they just seem less legitimate.
Idle thought: We were talking about how Less Wrong had a lot (though a minority) of people from less savoury parts of the internet, but that's... actually very good? Less Wrong is actually a great community of last resort because it does genuinely make its members better.
The core LW worldview is not one I would particularly endorse, but honestly most people don't end up staying there. A lot of people seem to have become much healthier and more complete human beings as a result of joining LW, taking on board its worldview, and building on it.
And actually that is exactly the sort of site we want more of on the internet.