1/ I'm nearly 50, I've had to reckon with people I admired, even mentors, who've turned out to be hiding terrible actions and/or revealed themselves to hate me & what I stand for.
It's like death: it feels terrible, but it's an expected part of a broadly lived life.
2/ The way to deal with the sorrow of losing a mentor - either through them changing, you changing, or you finding out new information - is to recognize that the relationship was based on a mutual acceptance of shared ethics & what you shared is now broken.
3/ But I've seen that many enablers of abuse can't accept they were ever wrong (about anything)
Cognitive dissonance is VERY powerful. It's an anxiety disorder IMO & it comes from a lack of self-respect
To be healthy & righteous, you must accept the idea that you can be flawed!
4/ As a distant spiritual advisor for whoever needs it, I implore people to have a system of error-checking. You must have someone who not only can tell you that you're wrong, but that you'll listen & change.
5/ If you have no plan for accepting criticism, then you cannot plausibly change yourself for the better
Being stubborn to protect your ego? Then you may find yourself wearing a RedHat and laughing at people crying in pain and fear
6/ I've said this many times, but it's crucial now in #Tishrei 5781, when the whole world lies in the balance: if you change ethics when it hurts you, you were never ethical.
Bravery means withstanding the pain your ethics force upon you.
7/ I've lost a few teachers, I've left political movements, it's always painful. It can be done and I pledge to help anybody who wants to change, to break the addiction, to stop hurting themselves & others.
219b.03/ I'm labeling the posts in this week "219b" because I messed up last week and started numbering things 219 instead of 218 and I'll be darned if I pay Moosk for an edit button. Not sure if I'll remember to do this all week or recall what I was doing when I return to these.
218.02/ #ChochmatNashim for #KiTavo 5783 (LAST YEAR) @ChochmatNashim.
Downloadable PDF with working links of Divrei Torah by Orthodox women scholars on the parsha and other topics of the week. 12 pages. drive.google.com/file/d/1zjmFJj…
219.03/ It's stuff like this that makes almost any wild idea about the capabilities of technology seem plausible. The good guys just did SOMETHING to make beepers remotely blow up. That's not something I could even imagine existing and yet here we are.
217.02/ Due to a combination of having a maddening schedule over the past few weeks and having Twitter owned and run horribly by the Divorced Incel King, it's been very hard to write anything.
217.03/ #ChochmatNashim for #KiTetze 5783 (last year)
@ChochmatNashim.
Downloadable PDF with Divrei Torah from Orthodox women scholars on the weekly parsha and other topics of the day. 15 Pages. No time to do a new one this year before Shabbas. drive.google.com/file/d/1NucT9p…
212.02/ #ChochmatNashim for #Devarim and #TishaBeAv 5783 (LAST YEAR). @ChochmatNashim
Downloadable pdf with working links of Divrei Torah by Orthodox women scholars on the parsha and other topics of the week. 22 pages. drive.google.com/file/d/1TH6ApN…
212.03/ This is an excellent, spot-on, thread. I've said a lot of this stuff for years.
[I'm a life-long Democrat born in Pittsburgh & raised in small towns (Binghamton), rural areas (Ithaca), and the South (Memphis). Walz is a familiar archetype to me.]
211.02/ It would behoove this law prof. to learn about the Jewish law concept of "chazakah" - the legal presumption for what a person means/intends. So, um, Trump (ym'sh) fomented an armed insurrection. He wants to end Democracy.