1/ I'm nearly 50, I've had to reckon with people I admired, even mentors, who've turned out to be hiding terrible actions and/or revealed themselves to hate me & what I stand for.
It's like death: it feels terrible, but it's an expected part of a broadly lived life.
2/ The way to deal with the sorrow of losing a mentor - either through them changing, you changing, or you finding out new information - is to recognize that the relationship was based on a mutual acceptance of shared ethics & what you shared is now broken.
3/ But I've seen that many enablers of abuse can't accept they were ever wrong (about anything)
Cognitive dissonance is VERY powerful. It's an anxiety disorder IMO & it comes from a lack of self-respect
To be healthy & righteous, you must accept the idea that you can be flawed!
4/ As a distant spiritual advisor for whoever needs it, I implore people to have a system of error-checking. You must have someone who not only can tell you that you're wrong, but that you'll listen & change.
5/ If you have no plan for accepting criticism, then you cannot plausibly change yourself for the better
Being stubborn to protect your ego? Then you may find yourself wearing a RedHat and laughing at people crying in pain and fear
6/ I've said this many times, but it's crucial now in #Tishrei 5781, when the whole world lies in the balance: if you change ethics when it hurts you, you were never ethical.
Bravery means withstanding the pain your ethics force upon you.
7/ I've lost a few teachers, I've left political movements, it's always painful. It can be done and I pledge to help anybody who wants to change, to break the addiction, to stop hurting themselves & others.
225.02/ Finally dropped off our ballots this morning & took a selfie. A fun thing then happened: a young dad carrying a baby arrived after us & he said that it was his first time voting after becoming a citizen! So I insisted on taking a photo of him (with his camera). USA! USA!
225.03/ Yes, I'm the one who waited all Shabbas for the poll, taught my kids how polls work (social science PhD, baby) & what I hoped would happen (GOP leading by only 5). And they got to see my stunned elation in real time when I read the news.
224.02/ There's sticker shock and then there's "standing on the bathroom scale after 3 three-day yuntifs and 2 major fasts over 3 weeks" sticker shock.
224.03/ BTW, Trump (ym"sh) abd the MAGA-GOP going completely mask-off with racist nativism was very much on my BINGO card.
223.02/ Downside of "October is the Best Sports Month" - mixed blessing really - is that at 8pm tonight 3 of my teams will be on at the same time. NYMets facing elimination, #LIGHTITUPNYL in the last game of the finals, and the Steelers on SNF.
223.03/ #ChochmatNashim for #Vezot #SimchatTorah #SheminiAtzeret 2023-5784 (LAST YEAR). @ChochmatNashim
Downloadable PDF with working links with Divrei Torah by Orthodox women scholars on the topics of the week. 23 Pages drive.google.com/file/d/1pQso-a…
222.02/ #ChochmatNashim for #Sukkot 5784 2023 (LAST YEAR) @ChochmatNashim.
Downloadable PDF with Divrei Torah by Orthodox women scholars on the holiday & other weekly topics. 15 pages. drive.google.com/file/d/154AH4_…
222.03/ Another October sports is awesome moment: Mets playoffs, Yankees playoffs, Monday night football plus the #NYR at home. Pretty much all at the same time.
221.02/ #ChochmatNashim for #YomKippur 2023 5784 (LAST YEAR) @ChochmatNashim
Downloadable PDF with working links to Divrei Torah by Orthodox women scholars on the holiday. 24 pages. drive.google.com/file/d/1Rw-PaB…
221.03/ Yes, there's been a noticeable online vibe shift that makes people think the GOP is strengthening. It's an op. It's what they did in 2022 with garbage polls but now they've added juicing the betting markets. Fascists need to appear unstoppable. Don't panic.
220.02/ Thank God, today my family was able to receive our #BivalentBooster shot, for COVID19 and the flu. I'm so grateful to live in a country which has easy and plentiful access to life-saving medicine.
220.03/ #ChochmatNashim for #RoshHashana 2023 5784 (LAST YEAR). @ChochmatNashim.
PDF with working links to Divrei Torah from Orthodox women scholars (24 pages). Also see the retweet for a relevant PDF from last week.