Thread by @GeniesLoki

Feeling mischievous so here's another thread.

One like = one question you really wish I hadn't asked you because of what your answer reveals about your shadow.

1. Who in your personal life do you most hate and in what ways are you afraid that you are secretly like them?

2. What do you really dislike and what interpersonal conflicts does it give you a really convenient excuse for avoiding?

3. When do you become extremely nice and polite in response to attacks and what authority figure in your childhood did you learn that with?

4. That thing you find hot, why is it hot? Explain in detail.

5. You know the way that things that were previously interesting suddenly become boring? What is the common thread there?

6. Why on *earth* did you click like on that tweet?

7. Who do you most want to like you more than they do and why?

8. What is the most life improving thing you could be doing right now and why aren't yo doing it?

9. What do you avoid learning how to do well so that you won't be asked to do it?

10. Which story (book, film, whatever) have you most cried at and what about your life does it remind you of?

11. Who in your personal life would you be most relieved about if they quietly, peacefully, and with minimal harm to others dropped dead, and why?

12. Imagine your ideal fantasy life. Why is it actually awful?

13. Which emotions are you not allowed to feel and where did you learn it was unsafe to feel them?

14. Why haven't you already asked yourself many of these questions?

15. Are you actually going to answer these questions or would you prefer to not understand yourself?

16. Which parts of your identity do you loudly proclaim that you're actually secretly very unsure about?

17. What is the biggest thing in your life that you just kinda casually fell into and would you have made a conscious decision to do it if you'd known in advance everything you know now?

18. What trait that people strongly associate with you is almost pure performance on your part and totally fails to reflect your inner life?

19. You could definitely be more attractive than you currently are if you put in the effort. Why aren't you doing that?

20. What things do you do for others because you really wish you had someone to do them for you?

21. Look around your environment. Now look again, but this time notice the thing you tried not to see the first time because it was making you anxious and avoidant. What is that thing and why is it scary?

22. Who are you friends with in large part because you enjoy secretly looking down on them?

23. Who are you friends with in large part because they give you permission to be a version of yourself you can't access without them?

24. You know all those times you fucked up and everybody got mad at you? Which of them have actually turned out really well for you in the long run and how sure are you that that wasn't deliberate on your part?

25. Think of your younger self (pick an age which makes this question most interesting). In what ways do you hold them in contempt?

26. Which of these questions have triggered the strongest emotional reaction for you and what advice that you're tired of constantly hearing do they remind you of?

27. Which problems in your life would cause you to lose valued communities if you solved them?

28. What are you avoiding changing because it would prove someone who really pissed you off was right?

29. What are you putting off in order to give yourself an excuse to do a bad job of it?

30. In what ways are you like your parents?

31. Why the hell haven't you done this already?

https://twitter.com/__justplaying/status/1309427194641477633

32. What do you know to be true but pretend isn't because everyone will hate you for saying it?

33. What are your positive qualities that you pretend you are unaware of because it would be arrogant to admit to them?

34. What are your negative qualities that you pretend to be unaware of because it lets you get away with them?

35. You can swap lives with anyone you know. Who do you pick and why?

36. What behaviour do you do because you really want someone to call you on it?

37. Congrats, you get a super power! You may now experience one particular emotion, as strongly as you want, whenever you want to. Which emotion do you pick and when do you use this power?

38. When was the last time you experienced major personal growth?

39. What decisions are you putting off making despite knowing exactly what you're inevitably going to decide?

40. You probably have sexual fantasies that you really wouldn't want to have happen in reality. What is the underlying need they are pointing to?

41. What are you not currently getting that you would ask for if you could do so without fear of judgement or rejection?

42. When do you say "I can't" or "it's too hard" but really mean "it's too scary and I don't want to try"?

43. What question are you dreading I'm going to ask and why aren't you able to ask it yourself?

Bonus question just for me: Why am I force-feeding alt twitter their shadow instead of doing work right now? 😬

I'm going to stop this thread here and go do some work but I will resume tomorrow.

Bonus bonus question just for me after peeking back to see the like counter: Holy hell, why do I do this to myself?

It's possibly I might stop the thread at 100, we'll see.

44. What are your worst traits, and what bad things would happen to you if you could suddenly change them for the better?

45. What is the *easiest* thing you could do to improve your life, and why aren't you doing it?

46. Who are you afraid of hurting?

47. Super power time again! You have the ability to permanently excise one emotion. Which do you pick, why, and what bad things will happen to you as a result of that choice?

48. Whose approval are you desperate for and why?

49. What do you have that you feel you don't deserve?

50. What do you feel you deserve but don't get?

51. You make a new friend and (within the bounds of plausibility) they are exactly a type of friend you need and don't currently have. What are they like?

52. Which responsibilities always seem to end up falling to you and why is that?

I'm not really in the right headspace to continue this thread right now (and yikes all the likes 😬). I could probably force out another dozen or so questions but I'd rather take a break. May or may not resume in a week or so.

53. What things are you unusually good at and what negative experiences does being good at them let you avoid?

54. What are your most positive behaviours and what is the most cynical interpretation of why you do them?

55. What do you do primarily because you want people to like you?

56. What do you most fear that everyone secretly thinks about you?

57. What do you know to be false and yet cannot shake a feeling of utter certainty that it is true?

58. What are you currently refusing to admit because if you did you would have to change your life?

59. Who have you failed?

60. Which problems in your life are entirely your fault?

61. Who in your life (other than yourself) are you refusing to blame for things you secretly know are their fault?

62. What objects do you own that you cannot throw out solely because admitting you will never need them again is too painful?

63. Which friendships are obviously no longer worth it for you to maintain?

64. What are you currently on Twitter in an attempt to avoid thinking about?

65. What questions will you never answer truthfully, no matter how much you trust the person who asks?

66. What truths would you refuse to say out loud in an empty room?

67. Who in your life makes you a worse person?

68. Who do you want to trust more than you do and what is stopping you?

69. What are you afraid that those who love you will notice?

70. What questions are you afraid to ask in case you can't handle the answer?

71. Are you a good person?

72. Are you lonely?

73. Think of all the people important to you. How would they react to your crying in front of them? Do they feel right to react that way?

74. What ways are you refusing to improve your life because they go against your politics?

75. In what ways are you secretly like the outgroup?

76. Who would you like to be friends with but you're afraid of how it would look to your other friends?

77. What do you feel like people care far too much about?

78. What are you avoiding saying to yourself?

79. What do you secretly believe everyone thinks about you that you really wish they would just come out and say?

80. Who are you hoping will call you on your bullshit?

81. What are you unusually good at and in what ways would your life be better if you weren't good at that?

82. What are you sinking energy into that, if challenged, you would have to admit is obviously not worth it?

83. What do you kinda resent the people around you for not knowing about you, despite the fact that you've never told them?

84. What sorts of emotional connection do you look for in romantic relationships in fiction? Do you get that in your own?

85. What sorts of emotional connection do you look for in friendships in fiction? Do you get that in your own?

86. What sort of mentors are you lacking?

87. Purely for your own sake, without reference to how it affects others, do you feel like it is a good and positive thing that you exist?

88. Do you feel like it is a good and positive thing for the world that you exist?

89. Suppose you fixed all your major problems and the world was great. What would you do with your time then?

90. What will your legacy be?

91. Which fictional characters would you love to be if ethics permitted you? What needs are you failing to express as a result of holding on to those ethical constraints?

92. What do people tell you about yourself that you refuse to believe? What does not believing that protect you from?

93. What things in your life do you not feel allowed to complain about?

94. What are you spending most of your time and energy on? Is it worth it?

95. What are the weirdest things you do? Are there weirder things you'd like to do but feel inhibited from? What needs are you failing to meet at a result?

96. What traits used to be a big part of your identity that you have now rejected? What do you miss about them?

97. How has what you tweet changed as more people followed you? What would you stop tweeting about it you doubled your current follower count? Do you have other outlets you can talk about that?

98. Consider the standards you hold yourself to. What would the world look like it they were widely adopted? Would any of them make things worse? Would people be happier?

99. What would you do if you were much braver than you are?

100. You are given access to a magic introspection machine than can answer any questions about your internal state (thoughts, memories, feelings, etc) with total accuracy and as much detail as you want. What should you ask it? Are you prepared to deal with the answers?

101. What is happening in your life that you wish would end?

102. What needs of others would you like to meet but are too afraid of their depth?

103. What in your life feels excessive? How would it feel to reduce it?

104. How would you like your life to change? Do you know how to achieve that? Are you doing any of that?

105. Think forward a year from now. The preceding year has gone as well as it possibly could have. What happened?

106. Think forward a year from now. You are disappointed in the outcome - even accounting for all of the necessary obstacles, you could have done better. What happened?

107. What have you not yet acknowledged must end? Are you prepared for its absence?

108. What are you not putting enough work into?

109. What efforts should you realistically be abandoning?

110. Congratulations, all your hard work has paid off! How does it feel? Do you get the recognition you deserved? Was it worth it?

111. In what ways are you failing to live up to your ethical standards?

112. You are asked to provide an accounting for your life and how you've chosen to live it. Which bits are hardest for you to explain?

113. In what ways are you a bad influence on those around you?

114. If you were behaving unethically, how would you know? Is there anyone who you would trust to tell you?

115. Who do you think of as not merely bad, but your enemy? What makes them such?

116. What in your life could you give up to make the world a better place? Why don't you?

117. What are you only doing because you *used* to want to do it?

118. Who in your life would you like to understand you better than they do?

119. What are you too strongly opposed to doing? How would doing a little of it improve your life?

120. Who is there who you could work well with to improve both your lives, if only you were able to trust each other more?

121. What brings you joy in life? Do you do too much of it or too little?

122. What feuds would you want to mend if you could do so without losing face?

123. If you were able to do so, what relationships in your life would you like to deepen?

124. What is the most important thing in your life, and what would you do if you were free to focus on it?

125. What would you do if you could give it the care it deserves?

126. In what ways has your life over the last year been extremely positive that you don't feel able to talk about?

127. The worst has happened, you've been cancelled, you've lost your job, your friends have deserted you. Looking around the wreckage of your life... which bits are you relieved to no longer have to deal with?

128. The thing you have sunk so much time and effort into turns out to be a bust. You can no longer work on it further, and find yourself with an abundance of free time. What do you do now?

129. What do you most fear to be true because of how you would have to change your life if it were?

130. Imagine your ideal community. What needs do they meet that you are not getting met now?

131. Who do you know who gives you energy to spend time with? Who drains it?

132. Can your friends trust you?

133. You have some straightforwardly practical problem to deal with (e.g. you need help moving). Who can you rely on to help you out? Can they rely on you in turn?

134. Consider a close friendship where one of you is far more popular than the other. How would that friendship change if the roles were reversed?

135. What differentiates you from those around you? Would you like to do it more? What stops you?

136. Who in your life do you always feel like you must be on guard around?

137. What have you abandoned that you could probably succeed at if you tried harder?

138. What do you not feel able to express your pleasure in because it will sound like bragging?

139. What dreams are you too afraid to tell those close to you about?

140. What bring you pleasure in your life that you are resisting doing more of because it feels inappropriate to indulge?

141. In what ways are you overriding your feelings in your day to day life? e.g. what things do you do that you feel uncomfortable doing.

142. What stops you telling the people important to you how you feel about them?

143. Have you got a mentor? What would you like out of one (either your current one if they exist or a hypothetical ideal one) that you are not currently getting?

144. What do you want but are not getting and what would it feel like to ask for it?

145. What problems in your life do you feel like you could solve if you were smarter?

146. What (or who) in your life would you like to be more reliable than it is?

147. What important things are you confused by and why do you allow yourself to remain confused by them?

148. What parts of yourself are you unable to be honest do others about?

149. What are you only pretending to people that you think is true?

150. What do you suspect to be true that would nevertheless break your heart if it were confirmed?

151. What things have you been avoiding for ages that you could do in 5 minutes? Why have you been avoiding them?

152. How often are you lonely?

(Meta: I'm going to start pinning the latest question instead of the root of the thread)

153. How does it feel when you think about the fact that literally everything you do permanently changes the world?

154. How does it feel if you imagine not having free will, with everything predetermined? What things can you stop feeling guilty over?

https://twitter.com/publius__2/status/1334153281694646273

155. Do you know why people don't like you?

(Credit to

https://twitter.com/mspeacherino/status/1334761120515682304

)

156. What do you *actually* want?

157. Consider an idea that you hate from an intellectual domain that you are reasonably familiar with. What aspect of that idea most viscerally offends you? What would you have to change about your life if it were literally and unambiguously true?

158. What could you achieve if you could bring yourself to properly try hard at it and risk failure?

159. What reasonable requests make you angry? What would happen if you just politely said no to those requests?

160. How would the way people perceive your personality change if you were less tired?

161. Which parts of your personality are the most energy intensive for you to maintain?

162. What obviously true things are you committed to denying for political reasons?

163. In what ways have you limited yourself to a life you know how to live?

https://twitter.com/selentelechia/status/1293250027473657862

164. What does the life you live say about what you want?

https://twitter.com/visakanv/status/1348670310757777409

165. What's the minimum set of changes you might need to make to your lifestyle to get yourself out of a state of chronic stress?

https://twitter.com/captain_mrs/status/1348952330281119744

166. What positive archetypes that most people like do you absolutely hate and dread being associated with?

167. What makes you think you shouldn’t have the problems you’re having?

https://twitter.com/ChanaMessinger/status/1353105296084905985

168. You know that thing that you've been idly thinking about for years but never got around to and that totally isn't a big deal. Suppose, hypothetically, it *were* a big deal. Why is that? What would you be hoping to get out of it?

169. What have you done that isn't safe lately?

https://twitter.com/liminal_warmth/status/1418276448440250371

170. Who are you failing to give credit to and why?

https://twitter.com/Tjdriii/status/1418690747642040320