A very grim thing I am realizing from this new Biden emails story is how many men are responding to the concept of fathers saying “I love you” to their sons as though it’s alien to their experience

not just shitty right-wingers mocking it, but men expressing such longing for it
toxic masculinity hurts men and boys so much
I just, like. My dad and brothers say it all the time

Everyone deserves to be able to say it and hear it all the time

I know that there are some parents that are just pure shit but this isn’t even about that, this is about even men who WANT TO SAY IT feeling like they can’t
It just makes me so sad to think that one of the things that actually makes Joe Biden the most likable - the fact that he’s an openly and comfortably emotional man with demonstrably loving relationships, including with his sons and other men - is a right wing punchline now
Not just sad for the Bidens, but sad for the children of every man who buys into this new talking point and mocks Joe for showing weakness
Listen

I talk a lot of shit about men on this bird app but this is like .... the nicest my mentions have ever been for a tweet to which mostly men have responded

a lot of you are working so hard to be better dads than your dad was and I see you 💕
parents of all genders normalizing saying “I love you” to kids of all genders is SO IMPORTANT but there’s such a particular and specific way the absence of it seems to affect cishet men who are drowning in toxic messaging so like, all of you deserve a hug for doing a good job
(to the people whose only response to this was to call me a neoliberal shill for saying anything about Joe Biden besides “he is an evil monster who should be ejected into space”, thank you for so generously providing a master class in missing the point)

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the venomous “Discovery” haters desperate for the show to be canceled are just so mad all the time that a Black woman is both the lead of a show and the defining relationship of Spock’s life that made him who he is, and I revel in seeing them thwarted

it’s such a good show
after s1: “lol no one is gonna watch this SJW Star Trek, it’s not getting picked up for a 2nd season”

after s2 announced: “okay that was a formality but it’s dead now”

after s3 announced: “it’s public knowledge that there is ZERO chance of a 4th season”

after s4 announced:
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the white supremacy baked into the entire aesthetic of classical ballet - an art form which fanatically reveres symmetry, homogenity and the purity of whiteness - does not get interrogated in mainstream arts journalism anywhere near as much as it should.
If you define perfect beauty as 12 pairs of identical white legs moving in precise unison to resemble swans, it’s not hard to understand how Black and brown women end up relegated to random soloist interludes (many of which are just. so racist. and have aged. so badly)
If I never have to watch the questionable ethnic caricatures in Act II of the Balanchine Nutcracker it will be too soon

I worked for a ballet company for 5 years, I had to watch so many women of color put those cringey costumes on
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Ainsley Hayes reading stage directions, I’m already crying

also I’m so emotional to see the journalists again????
Sterling K. Brown is perfect for this
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really saying the quiet part loud about how what they define as a "brilliant woman" is one who will never threaten male superiority

it's like men who say they like women with a sense of humor but they really just mean "laugh at MY jokes, don't make your own"
p.s. I'm a white Catholic woman who used to be a youth minister, my mom was board chair of Catholic Charities and Mount Angel Abbey, my parents are members of the Knights of the Holy Sepulchre, and my sister worked for the Archbishop

NO ONE is more qualified to roast this woman
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there are probably places where you could flip a whole House seat that way
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I have GBBO on in the background while I work on grant budgets and honestly the only thing more upsetting than what Paul Hollywood thinks a bagel looks like is this hetero appropriation of rainbow symbols
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Jewish queers I'm so sorry you do not deserve this toxicity
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