Right, I’ve been doing some reading (and writing) about young women’s experiences in public space, and it’s made me so angry and upset that I have to share a digest with you all.
Globally, during adolescence, ‘girls’ worlds shrink, while boys’ expand’. One study finds that the map of 14-yo girls’ day-to-day movements is 2/5 the size of that of their 11-yo selves, and only 1/3 the size of 14-yo male peers’ movements.
The shrinking of teenage girls’ access to public space correlates to reduction in girls’ ability to exercise. In Texas, teenage girls do 65% less physical activity than boys. Girls drop out of sport clubs in adolescence at far higher rates than boys. This sets a trend for life.
Numerous factors influence girls’ shrinking access to public space. Some are to do with gender roles in families. A study in rural Australia found that boys tend to be given outdoor chores (mowing the lawn), whereas girls are given indoor ones (washing up etc).
Girls in larger families are less likely to visit parks – probably because parents are less able to chaperone them, and there is a stronger expectation that girls, rather than boys, require chaperoning around public space.
But the SINGLE MOST IMPORTANT FACTOR that deters teenage girls from public places is... the presence of men. Teenage girls in western Australia say openly that ‘they’d use [public] spaces more if boys weren’t around.’
Park features that attract boys and men – such as ‘organized sport settings’ like courts – are repeatedly shown to deter girls. Teenage girls are often seen to gravitate towards playgrounds – the only area of parks consistently populated more by adult women than men.
Girls themselves report 2 main reasons for avoiding spaces dominated by men. The 1st is self-conciousness. The majority of teenage girls interviewed have experience of being taunted by male peers (and male teachers) for their appearance and sporting competence.
But the principal reason is FEAR. Australian teenage girls describe parks as the LEAST safe public space, followed by streets, then public transport. 60% of 13yo girls in Stockholm say they are scared in their own neighbourhood.
In South Africa, girls label over 58% of public spaces ‘unsafe’/ ‘very unsafe’, & areas that boys find ‘extremely safe’ (including schools) girls describe as ‘very unsafe’. Sometimes girls fear is about injury, & girls care more about the maintenance of public spaces like parks.
But mostly girls fear violence and sexual crimes from boys and men. And, across all the studies I’ve read, the teenage girls who were interviewed had direct experience, or had been witnesses to, harassment, stalking, intimidation and assaults from boys and men.
Teenage girls have coping mechanisms for these constraints on their access to public space. Some report trying to behave assertively, to not show fear. In parks, girls are reluctant to engage in exercise & prefer to ‘walk, sit or lay down’ in innocuous places, such as under trees
In public swimming pools, girls try to make themselves less visible – by swimming in t-shirts, covering themselves with towels until the last moment, or hiding themselves among friends. They try to not draw attention to themselves, by jumping in, messing around or ‘having fun’.
But many deal with these constraints by simply avoiding public space altogether.Many girls explicitly avoid parks & courts. Many retreat to their bedrooms, where girls spend much more time than boys. One girl refers to her room as ‘the only place in the world where she felt safe’
I find this heart-breaking & enraging. I knew from my own experience that women have different responses to public space than men, but I thought I’d become hardened. But reading these studies, in which adolescent girls experience their world & possibilities contracting, is 💔
There are interventions that can help teenage girls to feel more at home in public space, &, by being able to exercise, to be more at home in their bodies. @CCriadoPerez’s wonderful Invisible Women describes interventions made by park planners in Sweden to encourage girls’ access
Better lighting has been shown to attract teenage girls to parks (and, interestingly, to deter teenage boys 🤔), and this describes similar environmental changes to make public space more hospitable to women endvawnow.org/en/articles/38…
Similarly, there are efforts to improve teenage girls’ experience of school sport: more time to get changed & giving girls better choice of sports (girls report how boys are encouraged to ‘go outside’, while they are confined to ‘dancing studios’). theguardian.com/education/2017…
BUT one of the MOST effective interventions is to give girls access to spaces without men. It’s sad that it’s necessary, but allowing girls to participate in single-sex sports is repeatedly shown to increase participation and enjoyment.
Women-only sessions in public spaces like swimming pools allows girls to participate without harassment. Martha Brady shows how facilitating girls’ sports in single-sex spaces can be a way of ‘bringing girls into the public sphere’. jstor.org/stable/4000550…
I used to be a bit jokey about the question, ‘women, what would you do if there was a curfew for men?’ But reading this material has made me realise how women are ourselves operating under a curfew. I’m sure many of us feel similarly to teenage girls retreating to our bedrooms.
This material has made me realise how important it is to grasp the extent to which women’s access to PUBLIC space is curtailed – the impact this has on our lives & health & happiness – & to devise ways for girls & women to take up occupation of space they have a right to be in. /
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This is a thread on gendered differences in experiences of bereavement – and why it’s important that bereaved women have single-sex spaces. If you'd prefer to read this as an essay, there's a full version with refs (link in bio). This is for anyone who prefers to read on Twitter.
Many grief support groups treat bereavement as if it’s gender neutral. The claim that ‘grief is a universal experience’ which goes ‘beyond gender’ is common. But there are gendered differences in grief, and failure to acknowledge them harms men and women - but particularly women.
Firstly, there are more bereaved women than men in the world. Men have lower life expectancies, so women can expect to live through more bereavements than men do. And, as it’s more common for women to marry older men than vice versa, wives are more likely to lose husbands than vv
Anyone who is bereaved lives in the shadow of a myth about what a ‘good grief’ looks like.
Look at almost any film or story about losing a spouse and there is a distinctive timeline, in which the same old landmarks crop up.
This trajectory follows the griever from the acute stage of pain, through a middle period in which their life expands in unexpected ways, to a resolution, which is usually encapsulated in the figure of a new partner (whom some widows refer to as a ‘chapter two’).
The ‘good grief’ myth includes anniversaries celebrated by lighting candles, releasing balloons or a commemorative meal. Friends say things like ‘grief is just love with nowhere to go’ and the griever nods in grateful, bittersweet recognition.
There’s so much pressure on women not to be ‘exclusionary’ but it’s always been men who have been the exclusionary ones.
Today I’m launching a new project, No Women Allowed, exploring how, globally, past & present, men have curtailed women’s freedoms, and women have fought back.
Some examples: after WW2, men in the UK, US and Australia banned women from entering pubs and bars. In the 1970s-80s, women protested: chaining themselves to the bar, storming pubs, and taking proprietors to court. In the UK, the ban was overturned in 1982
In Thailand in 2019, men banned women from enrolling in its chief Police Academy, decimating numbers of female officers - despite the fact that the law states that women reporting rape can ONLY do so to a female officer.
I found it! The original phrase was "the bladder's leash". It was an idea expressed by Annabel Cooper, Robin Law, Jane Malthus & Pamela Wood (all from New Zealand) in a 1998 seminar paper 'Rooms of Their Own: public toilets and gendered citizens in a New Zealand city, 1860–1940'
They published the paper in 2000 (you can read it here: ...), but they didn't use the exact phrase "the bladder's leash": instead, they wrote "We have entertained the notion of the bladder as a kind of leash restraining women’s forays away from home" doi.org/10.1080/7136
The first printed use of "the bladder's leash" was in an article by one of that original paper's co-authors, Robin Law, and another co-author called Rob Kitchin, wrt public provision of disabled toilets: ... jstor.org/stable/43100
A cautionary 🧵 with an unhappy ending. I’ve just been scammed out of over £20K by a cowboy builder. Here is what happened to me, and some warnings – but ultimately it’s a pretty broken system that we have in this country, where this repeated pattern of behaviour is legal.
In 2022, my husband died suddenly and traumatically. Thanks to a dear friend who had set up as a financial advisor a decade previously, we had life insurance, and I wanted to spend some of it on a treat for my daughters.
Looking ahead a few years to when I’d have 3 teenage girls at home, I thought it’d be nice for them to have their own little bathrooms. I was having some other building work done & the builder – who came recommended & whom I liked – said that bathroom fitting was his speciality.