Thread re: my tweets on the addictive cycle narcissistic abuse victims experience:

"Behind the scenes (in our head), the brain has established an intense bond to the psychopathic or narcissistic partner.[O]ften the last thing it wants to do is let go."…
"[L]eaving an abuser is not solely a cognitive decision (based on thinking), but rather one that is also tied to neurochemical, psychological and emotional anchors."
"Relationships with power differentials and fluctuations in treatment create stressful bonds that cause the victim to feel on edge. . . . It is a bond that the victim or survivor may actually desire was not there. Some even feel ashamed and responsible for the traumatic bond."
"In the aftermath of psychopathic and narcissistic love relationships, for many, oxytocin and dopamine become imbalanced and unregulated.

These neurochemical changes will place the victim in a tough position . . . "
"The imbalance of chemistry can cause the victim to experience intense cravings and wanting her partner. Her thoughts will often follow to make sense of her feelings and behavior."
"[I]t is extremely difficult to think clearly when oxytocin and dopamine place such importance and value on the abuser.

This combination of neurochemistry (along with endogenous opioids) can create an addictive attachment [to the abuser] that is difficult to break."
"Having reactions of craving, dependence and withdrawal can occur even if the victim is aware that logically the partner is a poor or dangerous mate."

[My comment: this manifests as an addiction to his insane cycle of jacking our nervous systems with tweets and wild actions]
"Due to the surge in oxytocin and dopamine, the victim will require a connection to the abusive individual to keep from going through the painful feelings of withdrawal. She or he has become dependent."
"This particular dependency is not co-dependence, but rather a reflection of the same neurocircuitry we associate with drug dependence."

[My comment: In other words: even when he's abusing us, and we know he's abusing us, we're addicted to the cycle of his abuse like a drug.]
"Symptoms of withdrawal, craving the toxic relationship, or deciding to stay are not a reflection of personal weakness on the part of the victim.

It is simply normal brain responses to an abnormal situation (the kindness/abuse mixture)."
"Those with insecure attachment foundations will unfortunately respond more intensely to these circumstances."
Lastly: "[N]ote that when there is an emotionally charged environment, such as continued engagement with the abuser, seeking contrition from the disordered partner, or retaliation, the healing road will naturally be more difficult."

Let's break our national trauma bond. For God's sake, cut the addiction.


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