Thread by @utotranslucence

Slowthread of unqualified strong opinions:

To sing well you have to have had good sex

Men have lower back pain because our society controls anger and violence

90% of ‘being bad at emotions’ is a lack of (real or imagined) safety

Sleep is when your emotionally-salient experiences get integrated into your psyche, and it's possible to get better at this

99% of procrastination is fear

Chronic use of mood stabilising medication is bad for your mental health because it blocks you from metabolising important experiences, keeping you stuck in the past

Current long-term psychiatric treatment of people who have experienced manic episodes is wrong, and based on trying to fix the wrong thing

(This tweet will be an essay one day)

Society owes a great debt to hypomanic states, it's how a lot of the world's most important, genius creation gets done

90% of pain women experience during sex is because of fear; the other 10% is when men are bad at angles

‘Anxiety’ and ‘stress’ are overly clinical ways to say worry, fear and anger

Couples getting married should carefully decide together which of their two surnames is more beautiful, and take that as their family name

Poly people who say they’re ok with their partner having another partner are lying to themselves: either about how much they are into their partner or about how jealous they are

/spicy

Boredom is repressed rage

The obesity epidemic and the trauma epidemic are inextricably linked, and the former cannot be satisfactorily addressed without addressing the latter

Optimisation is a trauma response

ADHD is a medicalised term for ‘I cannot persuade my body to suppress my own needs and desires to obey the people, norms and institutions around me, and I can’t get out of needing to obey’

Most mental health problems arise because our social context denies our animal-ness and our social-ness

Anyone who wants to build a startup should have to take the same team and build a house together first

You worldview is way more determined by your body and your emotions than you think it is

‘In love’ sex and ‘not in love’ sex are basically two separate activities

Planning the future is a coping strategy

How little changes when your company moves from in-person to remote is a measure of how disembodied your work culture is

There is always a tension between speed and integration, and so, as a result, between speed and integrity

Incredible sex is very dangerous

Most humans don’t know they’re animals and it shows

No one is a universal asshole; one is only an asshole in context

Modern life happens way too fast for human bodies to metabolise—you have to deliberately slow it down in order to keep up

Knowing your own limits is not a sign of weakness, but of strength—because it’s only by knowing where they are that you have a hope of changing them

Literally every admirable trait someone has will drive you insane in some way if you get close enough

It is possible to develop more control over whether and how you fall in love than most people think.

Anyone theorising about a system without deeply, personally and specifically interacting with the system over time builds theories that are not worth listening to.

Any advice on taking action that doesn’t have ‘THIS IS HOW TO HANDLE CONSTRAINTS’ written all over it is worse than useless—it perpetuates idealistic delusions that make you worse at acting.