I speak from experience. Growing up w/ an abusive narcissist, I was brainwashed. I believed garbage about myself and the world, incl right wing propaganda. It was meant to terrorize me and my mom into compliance and complicity. I began deprogramming at 17 when I was kicked out.
A big part of that deprogramming was learning to get my own anger under control. Abused people are prone to become abusers, and my anger used to scare me at times. I’ve never lifted a finger, but I have his talent for cruel words when I’m in pain. That’s on me, not him.
Took a lot of trial and error, a ton of therapy, and very loving, patient friends to help me work through my PTSD triggers and learn to talk about what bothered me. Talking about issues early and often stopped rage in its tracks.
I still lose it on very rare occasions. And it’s still my fault every time I do. My dad may have broken me down, but it’s never okay to take that brokenness out on others. In learning that, I healed so much of myself. It gave me the moral compass I need to get through this world.

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