1. In-depth personal therapy. You cannot understand another's emotional life unless intimately familiar with your own.
2. Making discussion of therapy relationship a normal part of sessions. Recognizing pt's problematic relationship patterns are always happening *in the room*
tbc
2/
3. Recognizing your own emotional reactions with a patient are a crucial source of clinical information about the patient and knowing how to use that information constructively (see #1)
4. Unfailing honesty & authenticity with yourself & your patients, no matter how difficult.
3/
5. Truly understanding how and why therapy frame & boundaries are necessary for the difficult work, and how to maintain them gracefully.
6. Ongoing and absolutely ruthless willingness to examine ourselves.
7. Humility about what we can know an understand—and readiness
4/
to reconsider assumptions, beliefs, & methods at any point.
8. Generosity of spirit. This doesn't mean neglecting your own needs, sacrificing unreasonably, or working for inadequate pay. It does mean dedicating yourself fully, heart, mind & soul, to the work of the session.
5/ Humility about the limits of our capacity to know and understand another's person's experience (and understanding our own is more than hard enough). Tirelessly striving to understand more and understand better.... knowing we are destined to fall short.

tbc
6/
10. Seeking out every possible opportunity for clinical consultation/supervision with clinically expert teachers and mentors on the same path of psychological exploration and inquiry... but maybe further along.
11. Becoming intimately familiar with all facets of human
7/
experience, averting our gaze from nothing. This includes sexuality and not just the vanilla varieties, spite, hate, envy, sadism, destructiveness, etc. etc. All are part of human experience, none can be denied or shunned.
tbc

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1/ From a forthcoming book chapter, "The Personality Syndromes"

"Personality is not about what disorders you have but about who you are. It refers to a person’s characteristic patterns of thought, feeling, behavior, motivation, defense, interpersonal functioning, and ways of
2/ experiencing self and others. All people have personalities and personality styles.

While there are as many personalities as people, clinical knowledge accrued over generations has given rise to a taxonomy of familiar personality styles or types. Most people,
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Patient: That's insulting.
pretend therapist: I'm sorry, I didn't mean it as an insult. You know I respect you very much.
real therapist: I can see how that landed badly. Tell me how you understand it.
2/ Patient: You don't care about me at all. You're just in this for the money.
pretend therapist: I care about you a lot.
real therapist: You must have reasons for thinking that of me. Help me understand how you came to see me that way.
3/ Patient: [after boyfriend cheats on her *yet again*] I know it's my fault, I'm not meeting his needs.
pretend therapist: It's not your fault. He doesn't deserve you.
real therapist: If it's your fault, it would be in your power to make the cheating stop.
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1/ Therapists who endlessly soothe & validate are not doing therapy & likely don't know how. Some snippets illustrating real vs pretend therapy:

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real therapist: [when crying subsides] Can you put those tears into words?
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2/ Patient: He abused me 
pretend therapist: You've suffered through so much.
real therapist: Tell me what you mean.
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3/ Patient: I feet unsafe
pretend therapist: You need to protect yourself
real therapist: Help me understand what thoughts and feeling are coming up.
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Eight tips for getting the most from teletherapy*

1. The most important thing is privacy. When we meet in my office, it’s my responsibility to provide a private setting. When we meet remotely, it’s up to you.

*adapted from guidelines by @DrIsaacsRussell & @ToddEssig

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Please do whatever is necessary to make certain you are in a private place where you will not be overheard or interrupted.

2. Settle into a comfortable chair but don’t lie down or recline. Try to arrange yourself as you would if we were meeting in person.

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3. Leave yourself 10-15 minutes of quiet, alone time before and after sessions. You need time before sessions to set aside the activities of the day and let your thoughts transition to therapy; you need time after to reflect and absorb. If possible, take a walk by yourself

3/8
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1/ WHY PSYCHOANALYSIS WORKS

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It's not the snarky
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