Think a lot of cis folks could do with understanding this (thread)

Transphobia (and probably most/all other bigotries against kinds of people) isn't just someone actively wishing trans people would die.

It can also be an action or behavior. And it can be done even by allies.
The most common misunderstanding about transphobia amongst cisgender people (in my experience) is that because they don't wish trans people dead, they cannot do transphobia. And accusations as such are a slur against that person's character.
This makes pointing out transphobic actions very hard to do. Because it very quickly becomes about what is in a persons soul ("How dare you, I have trans friends! I am not someone who wants trans people dead!") instead of looking at the thing that was done.
There are so many examples of this but pretty sure this might be the root of JK Rowling's transphobia.

Because she doesn't actively want trans people to die (I don't believe she does anyway) she cannot be a transphobe. Inspite of arguing for excluding trans people from places.
Here is an example that actually happened to me. I was invited to a family wedding but only if I showed up as the gender I was assigned at birth. Their rational was that guests could take the piss and disrupt the wedding and it would be my fault.
This was transphobia because my identity was seen as less than everyone elses. If there was a risk of transphobia being aimed at me during the wedding, they did not think about maybe addressing that problem. They thought I could just stop being trans for them.
None of those people involved hated trans people and wanted them to die. But they did transphobia regardless. I tried to tell them about this, and they responded with "but it isn't about me being bad, I don't think being trans is wrong!"

They clearly did on some level.
I have HUNDREDS of examples like this. Pretty sure every trans person has examples of being crapped on by cis people who claim to be allies. Sometimes, this hurts us more than Terfs because the discussions afterwoulds with people we love...sucks. It just sucks so much.
So, cis allies, watch out for this. You can do transphobia even if you are an ally. If a trans person points this out, please realise that transphobia is also a behaviour and it can be done with the best of intentions.
You doing transphobia sometimes doesn't mean you are the worst person who has ever lived or a literal nazi.

It means you made a mistake, one you can learn from and become an even better ally as a result.

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