1. Yeah yo, I’m just as cautious around white “ex-evengelicals” as I am around white fundamentalists. Both are often equally dogmatic & anti black faith. Both groups post statements that make it clear that if you disagree w/ them on their view; you’re anathema. I have my stories.
2. I’ve had a decent amount of encounters with white “exvangelical”people, especially white women, to know that many who claim to be allies are only such as long as you willing to have THEM rather than white male fundamentalists, colonize your faith. The moment you aren’t = 🤬😡
3. Let a black man say, “my marriage dynamics don’t fit within the white complementarian or egalitarian framework” & see how fast many will go from calling you “brother” to calling you a “misogynist”. Honestly, white progressivism is just as spiritually abusive as fundamentalism.
4. There are added layers here cuz black men have hung from trees & been sent to prison b/c of false accusations of being abusive or predatory by white women. But white Xian progressive women often have no prob insisting black men embrace their Egalitarianism or stand accused.
5. Real talk. When I see white progressives make dogmatic broad-sweeping statements of anathema about “conservative faith”, I know they primarily have white evangelicalism in mind, but it also informs me how they genuinely feel about a large segment of the historic black church.
6. In short, white Christians are spending a lot of time “deconstructing” their faith but they rarely engage or appreciate non-white movements in that deconstruction. They bounce from white fundamentalism to white liberalism. They deconstruct faith but not their white supremacy.

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22 Feb
1. There is a lot of talk going on about deconstructing faith, I wanna share a few thoughts.

First off, there is a difference b/t “deconstructing faith” & “demolishing faith”. Deconstructing means to break down while demolishing means to blow up. Same applies to this movement.
2. When someone is deconstructing their faith (the assumption here is we are talking about Christianity), they are seeking to tear down the various walls, floors, & furnishings of a home (their faith) and rebuild them in a more solid & healthy way on a foundation of Orthodoxy.
3. When a person demolishes the faith, they are blowing up the entire home, foundations included, and are seeking to rebuild everything into a faith expression that better suits them. Often, it’s one that is understandably comforting to their spiritual trauma & doesn’t trigger.
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22 Feb
*Trigger Warning*
1. Not seeing folks talk about this & I may do a video later b/c I think it’s really important for folks to grasp. Ravi Zacharias’ sexual predation was ritualistic. It was ritualistic sexual abuse, something some have called SRA (Satanic Ritualistic Abuse). Image
2. Zacharias did not believe in Yahweh, whatever god had Zacharias’ allegiance, it was NOT the Triune God of Christianity. Zacharias prayed to His God prior to engaging in his sexual predation & he viewed sex as a gift to him offered up by his God as a reward for his works.
3. Not only did Zacharias pray, but he insisted his victims pray to his false God as well & he encouraged them to see the sacrifice of their body to him as a “sacrifice of worship” to his god; he was His god’s messenger & his victims were serving god by giving themselves to him.
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21 Feb
Based on my experience, I’m fairly confident that the vast majority of people who publicly lament abuse & repudiate abusers when walls of power crumble & darkness FINALLY comes to light would also ostracize a fellow church member in defense of their pastor if they ever cried out.
After doing spiritual abuse/trauma care for several years & caring for hundreds of people there is one constant: The deepest spiritual trauma isn’t the abuse a victim has endured from a leader but the alienation & abandonment they’ve endured from fellow church members & friends.
Souls cry out. That’s what they do when they’ve exp agony, betrayal, or violence (abuse). It’s the muzzling of a soul that often causes greatest trauma, not the harm itself. Yes, silencing by spiritually abusive leaders wounds, but the betrayal of friend & faith family pierces.
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19 Feb
1. It's absolutely true. The entire Passion is a display of abuse & culminates w/ the stripping of Jesus clothes & lifting him up before the public naked as a spectacle. Jesus can be the sympathetic High Priest for all survivors b/c thru The Passion he himself experienced abuse.
Jesus Was
- Abducted
- Betrayed by friends
- Falsely accused
- beaten/tortured
- Remained Silent
- Was stripped naked
- Nakedness made a public spectacle
- All while the religious elites encouraged & enabled
3. Jesus also endured racial trauma as his ethnic people betrayed him, called for his crucifixion, and Romans mocked his ethnic heritage by plucking beard & torturing him.

But Jesus is also the epitome of a Survivor. He rose from abuse's grave & now intercedes for the oppressed
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17 Feb
1. Can I speak as a male Christian Counselor/Soul Care provider to men regarding this idea. All respect to Ashley, just speaking to men.

There is a difference b/t your wife being "not inclined" but open to her "not being in the mood". When she is the latter, don't be selfish...
2. "Being not inclined but open" means she isn't "down down" but is open to getting there provided she is romanced into it. Not "being in the mood" means she is not into it at all at the moment. If she isn't "in the mood", respect HER body. Do not insist on your your own way.
3. The teaching that says, “never deprive your husband sexually”, imo, is misogynistic. For one, a wife not being “in the mood” isn’t depriving her husband, it’s a woman being fully human w/ complex emotions & feelings and simply exercising her humanity & bodily autonomy.
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17 Feb
1. Awhile back while I was a lay leader in a church, my wife & I oversaw the care of about 20 saints. I was once invited to coffee by a non black minority who wanted counseling. He told me that he had to join my group but believed I wasn’t qualified to lead one cuz I was black.
2. I still provided several sessions of soul care cuz is wasn’t about me, I wanted person heal from their own racial trauma & flourish spiritually. I wouldn’t have done differently, but just reflecting on how often I’ve been used for my gifts while my humanity has been withheld.
3. On one level I didn’t blame them, their conception of black people & ministry was indoctrinated. On the other hand, it was profoundly disorienting to hear this confession & then be expected to provide soul care for person. I was traumatized by one whose trauma I was caring for
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