Here are 5 Invariant Principles for dealing with others:
1. Contrast matters

For example: Being slightly kinder than average is rewarded, while being slightly less kind than average is punished asymmetrically.
2. Don't keep score

For example: If you're keeping score in any relationship, it's already over.
3. Take the high road

For example: Have patience for all but malicious acts. Be humble. Don't make excuses. Don't speak for others or talk about them behind their back.
4. Win/Win is the way

For example: The key to making life easier the older you get is a history of relationships where everyone wins.

Trust can't happen without time. Time can’t happen if someone is losing.
5. Go First; Go Positive

For example: One of the most powerful behavioral algorithms we're hard-wired with is tit-for-tat.

You can easily make this work for you by going positive and going first.
Consistently combine these and you can't help but "win" at life.
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