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@EpistemicHope
Mar 1, 2021 • 18 tweets • 5 min read • Read on X
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I want to compile all of my twitter threads that touch on what I care about in a romantic partnership / spiritual collaboration.
This is largely for my own reference.

However, it occurs to me that a bunch of disparate threads, each of which was alive when I wrote it, and each dealing with a different facet, might in aggregate, be a good way of conveying the ephemeral thing-ness of my experience.
I'm increasingly resistant to try and describe what I want in this domain in any kind of top-down way, because when I try, my descriptions often feel "flat" to me, and more-often-than-not I feel missed or projected on.

Maybe this will work better?
[I'll continue to add to this, as I write more of these, if I write more of these.]
On production and consumption in dating:

One description of what sort of people I would like to go on dates with:

(Also, my muddled conflictedness about physical attractiveness.)

A long, branching, conversation about the game theory of "the matching game", and the circumstances under which it is mostly cooperative or mostly adversarial:

Partnership and meaning in my life:

The way the aliveness of what I care about seems to slip out of my grasp, but I act in line with it anyway, out of self-trust. And what to do about the whole situation:

My asking how asexual people go from "not knowing a person" to "being in a relationship with them", since in my experience and observation, approximately the only way that happens is if people live together for months first:

Comments on the ever expanding inferential divide that comes with growth and re-ontologizing, or at least the kind of growth and re-ontologizing that I'm doing:

On my relationship to the spiritual dimension of my altruism. (This might not seem related, but for me, it is EXTREMELY connected):

The people that you spend the most time with are who you merge with, and this is especially true of romantic partnerships:

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On a recent shift in my orientation to this whole thing, with some threads of how the romantic thing is tied to the ambition of my work.

[I forgot about this one.]

A response to a thread that triggered me and annoyed me, about settling, and about how romantic relationships intertwine with personal development.

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Today I confirmed that I've been getting pull-ups and chin-ups confused, and recording one as the other in all my logging, for...the past 10 years.

Pull-ups are the ones where you're palms face out. Chin-ups are the ones where your palms face in.
When you do chin-ups you can get your chin over the bar, which is much harder with pull-ups. Hence the name.
I'm putting this on the public archivable internet, as a marker off the date that I switched to using the proper terms.
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Do we know how many standard deviations on the human IQ bell curve, the average chimpanzee is?
Or is that an ill-defined question because the cognitive profile of chimpanzees are so different from humans that using a standard psychometric battery on a chimp doesn't give a meaningful "IQ" number.
(I've heard that chimps have superhuman working memory, for instance, which suggests the psychometric sub-score pattern for a chimp will be extremely unusual compared to the human population.)
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My impression of 1950s America, from news reels and ads, is that it was markedly more conformist than today.

All the men wear suits and hats?

I get the vibe that there's high levels of agreement about prestige hierarchies (eg everyone treats doctors with regard).
There's much more uniform adherence to (eg gendered) social roles?

Is that impression correct? Am I just noticing some dimensions of conformity and missing others?
Why do I have this impression?
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Jul 2
Interestingly, this gives me a whole different sense of "virtue".

I value being virtuous for its own sake, as something like an aesthetic judgement.
But there's a different way, which is more consequentialist: you just want "straightforward" desirable things like power and respect and sex and happiness, and so you do the things that get you those things.
Virtue doesn't have to be a moral position at all, any more than something mundane, like careful accounting. It's just the stuff that tends to work for getting the things that people want.
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I'm thinking about if I was old and cognitively impaired, knowing that I would die in less than 10 years.
But this would be easy for me. I'm signed up for cryonics. I'd probably already be in suspension if I was loosing track of sentences.

...unless maybe I had grandkids or something, and they were bringing me joy everyday. Maybe that would be a reason to stick around?
But even that would be a willing choice. I would weigh the options and DECIDE to take a few years of my mind and body falling apart because it's worth it to spend time with people I love.
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I think this view of society comes from a human egalitarian impulse, in two ways.
1) Society is stratified. Some people are in fact much better off and afforded real privileges and opportunities that others have less access to. Those privileges are an existence proof that "society" can be like a beneficent parent to at least some people.
Seeing that, one might ask, why them and not us?
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