I want to compile all of my twitter threads that touch on what I care about in a romantic partnership / spiritual collaboration.
This is largely for my own reference.
However, it occurs to me that a bunch of disparate threads, each of which was alive when I wrote it, and each dealing with a different facet, might in aggregate, be a good way of conveying the ephemeral thing-ness of my experience.
I'm increasingly resistant to try and describe what I want in this domain in any kind of top-down way, because when I try, my descriptions often feel "flat" to me, and more-often-than-not I feel missed or projected on.
Maybe this will work better?
[I'll continue to add to this, as I write more of these, if I write more of these.]
A long, branching, conversation about the game theory of "the matching game", and the circumstances under which it is mostly cooperative or mostly adversarial:
The way the aliveness of what I care about seems to slip out of my grasp, but I act in line with it anyway, out of self-trust. And what to do about the whole situation:
My asking how asexual people go from "not knowing a person" to "being in a relationship with them", since in my experience and observation, approximately the only way that happens is if people live together for months first:
Comments on the ever expanding inferential divide that comes with growth and re-ontologizing, or at least the kind of growth and re-ontologizing that I'm doing:
One thing that would help me figure out if I should invest a lot more into meditation is knowing in what situations it DOESN'T make sense to cultivate a meditation practice.
People who proselytize for meditation practice:
Given you see as the main benefits of meditating, and what diagnostic questions you would ask + what answers someone would give you, that would dampen your recommendation that they meditate?
@sashachapin @nickcammarata
For instance, if someone is naturally super low neuroticism, does that change the cost benefit analysis for them? On average, should they expect to get less out of meditating a lot?
If you want to do something nice for my (belated) birthday, the number one thing you can do is suggest people who I might want to date.
I’m planning *not* to prioritize active dating until after the singularity.
I’m sad that I didn’t succeed at finding a life partner before crunch time started in earnest, but given my estimates of the tradeoffs involved, it’s not worth it for me to spend my agency on it now.
But even so, I still want some kind of emotionally-intimate relationship with someone I like and respect. If you introduce me to someone I end up dating semi-seriously for a year, that would be an enormous boon to my life.
I care about some impacts of meditation more than others (and for some I might want to specifically avoid them, or move in the opposite direction), and it would be helpful to have some kind of guide of the impacts that different ways that different practices change the mind.
I want to try 5 to 10 different meditation techniques to get a sense of what kind of effect each one has on me, and generally get a good sense of the full landscape of different kinds of meditation.
Which techniques should I try?
I think I should have treated learning both math and meditation as exploration.
Instead of picking something I want to learn and grinding on it, I should have tried a lot of different things, and then doubled down on the ones that I found most fun / engaging / interesting.
Given that realization, I'd like to try a bunch of different meditation techniques, now!
All this sounds basically right to me, and, comports with my own (not yet published) personal ethics, modulo that (to speak in the language Scott is using here, which is not my usual language) we TOTALLY have implicit obligations to animals.
This was fascinating (and slightly horrifying). I'd love to read more accounts of the sociological-economic dynamics of "worlds" that I have little exposure to.
"Feminine norms" are at least partially rooted in female psychology, but they're also just an adaption to being on the more-in-demand side of a competitive market with non-fixed supply, that thrives on impulsivity.
The non-fixed supply and then impulsivity are both important to get feminine norms.
Landlords are on the more-in-demand side of their markets, but they respond to that by charging higher rents. That's not enough to create feminine norms.