What is truly exhausting this week is it feels like I’m only valued when I’m willing and fertile ground for others to do their learning...
Whether as a woman...
Whether as a Black person...
Whether as a Black woman...

I am a place you come to do harm, and learn to be better.
Where is the gawdforsaken humanity in that?

Find new ways to learn that doesn’t cost me so much.
Find new ways to learn so I can take a day off from teaching sometimes.
Find new ways to learn so you can look at me and see a woman, being human, an artist, a leader, a friend.
And if I do engage in the ‘teaching’ at least do me the courtesy of seeing that that costs me in invisible ways. That when I speak up about my beautiful dark-skinned Black womanhood, and what the world looks like from my eyes, I have to push aside so many other parts of who I am.
Some of us put ourselves there and choose to do the teaching.
Hope to change the world.
But we don’t choose to be bled dry.
To be asked to solve things that aren’t our problem.
To change our work to suit your needs.
Honour those that make the choice to have the conversation.
And don’t confuse my generosity and kindness for weakness and stupidity.
That is something else to learn.
If I am generous enough to trust that you have at least the intention to learn, reciprocate that generosity instead of distrusting my truth, my work, my words when they don’t fit your agenda.
And be fucking generous in your actions too!
My current favourite note-to-self that I created for myself -

Where there is no trust, there is no generosity.


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We have so much demanding our time and attention. We have deadlines and emails and zooms. But the biggest form of activism now is to recognise that these feelings need space. If you can give the gift of space, and time and a moment for tears, please do! Ask, care, and act on it.
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How do we speak to each other? How do we hear each other? How do we realise that sometimes we’re saying the same thing, sometimes fighting the same fight just expressing it differently? Timeline is full of commentary from people who think they’re on polar ends of something...
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An example. I have been intrigued about how the unspoken values around ‘excellence’ night do more harm to Black artists in theatre than we know sometimes. I then read a post about how there’s nothing wrong with ‘excellence’ when it comes to Black work. And I agree.
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I have answered emails, sent info, proofed things, and tried to keep my diary updated. Have had phone calls, and made phone calls, and been encouraged and encouraged where I can. And all of these things so many others could point to in their week too...
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