here's a thought, Dan (and fellow cis people in general):

cis people don't get to decide what is and isn't transphobic (and you should know that intent doesn't matter)

if a bunch of trans people are saying you've done/said transphobic shit, you've done/said transphobic shit
And, like, I'm not going to police how trans people talk about transphobia, but it seems like when cis people get accused of transphobia, we jump immediately to "I am not a transphobe," rather than talking about whether we *said/did* transphobic things
And making the conversation about whether or not you fit in the binary, absolute category of "transphobe" makes it really easy to shift the conversation away from what it really should be about, which is behavior.
Because if you can make it about whether or not you are a transphobe, a Bad Person Through And Through, you can come back with the defense of all of the good stuff you've said about or done for trans people
and thus, you can prove that you are not A Thoroughly Bad Person, and therefore this conversation should go away
but, like, that's not how ANYTHING actually works

I mean, there are people like Jesse Singal who have made a career out of being shitty to trans people, but even so, the thing that affects people isn't What Lives In The Secret Recesses Of Jesse Singal's Heart

it's what he DOES
so, like, the conversation should really be "have I done a thing or things that are transphobic?"

in the case of Dan Savage, that's a pretty obvious yes

and, like, is it that hard to apologize and stop doing them, Dan?

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