When autistic adults talk about how (usually non-autistic) parents of autistic kids don't listen to us,

This is what we mean.

When allistic parents have opinions on ABA they can simply "disagree" with autistic adults, some of whom went through it themselves. 1/2
#SayNoToABA Person 1: Yo fellow therapists, we all agree that CBT is som
That's not a disagreement. That's a dismissal. That's intentional ignoring. There are a lot of people that "disagree" when they're not the ones actually going through ABA. If you read closely, the parent is the one who said benefited from the child being in ABA. It's for parents.
The person who was replying was an autistic therapist!

Being a therapist was STILL not enough because guess what, they're also autistic, so instead it's just a "difference of opinion."

It is astounding how easy it is for them to ignore what people say if they're openly autistic

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5 Apr

What neurotypical ABA therapy would look like:

Rewarding a child for not making eye contact.
Rewarding a child for stimming and taking the reward away when they don't stim anymore.

Expecting a child to hear the fluorescent lights buzzing, and "correcting" them when they don't by pointing to where the lights are and saying "ow! that hurts!"

And doing it over and over again until they do it themselves without prompting - only then do they get a reward.

Rewarding a child for looking away from you, and if they keep looking at you, you ignore what they say to you because they're not "listening with their ears."
Only listen to their needs when they orient their ear towards you, not their face, even if they're hungry.

Read 13 tweets
5 Apr
TW abuse, gaslighting, eating disorder, food, hospitalization
Anonymous autistic person:
"My parents didn’t put me through ABA but did similar to me instead. I was treated as being awkward, attention seeking, making a performance out of things, overreacting" 1/11
"So my parents didn’t take my cries and meltdowns as cries for help that what they’re doing isn’t helpful, instead they persisted. Which they did with the whole food thing and went as far to hide food I disliked into my safe foods... their actions impacted my relationship" 2/
TW food
"with food and led to emetophobia and anorexia which led to hospitalization. They destroyed my relationship with food. Then when I turned 18 they told me I had to get a job now I’m an adult and pay my way or I can’t live there anymore. They forced me into work as they" 3/
Read 11 tweets
5 Apr
This is the scariest thing about ABA.

The scariest thing about parents saying they're listening but "my kid looks happy."

The scariest thing when people say "well I don't see any proof, just autistic people's experiences that it's bad."

Our entire society allows abuse on kids.
ABA therapists said it themselves in the most recent podcast, "who would want to be bullied?"

That's why they traumatize autistic children by suppressing their stims. Because they think they know "what's best" EVEN if it causes trauma.

That's how subhuman they think we are
This is something that happens across marginalized identities -

Trans and nonbinary kids are told to "just dress up in the house" or "only use your pronouns at home" because parents are worried about bullying or violence.

Asking kids to suppress their identity is violence.
Read 5 tweets
5 Apr
TW abuse, neglect, food
"My parents loved me a lot. But for some fucked up reason, they essentially ABA'd me by themselves. My dad would give me foods that he knew I couldn't eat, thinking I was just acting entitled or something, and force me to either eat it," 1/5
TW abuse, neglect, food
"or not eat for the rest of the day. I would go through about 6-7 hours a day hungry, about 2 or 3 times a week, for ~5 years before I told him to fuck off and ate a bowl of cereal" 2/5
TW abuse, neglect, food
"during my "not allowed to eat anything except x sensory hell foods" time. This all happened when I was like, 9 or younger." I would have been literally overjoyed to have a slice of bread with a hunk of cheese for dinner," 3/5
Read 6 tweets
4 Apr
I want to clarify something.

When we say "ABA is abuse" we don't mean rewarding a child for doing their homework, that they can do, is abuse.

We mean that being rewarded for being in sensory pain & emotional distress has long-term impacts on mental health & emotional trauma 1/3
& being in a "therapy" that focuses on asking & rewarding a child to get rid of their main way of regulation (stimming) & making them do tedious repetitive tasks & "cope" in painful environments with painful sensory tasks like making eye contact -
& doing this for 30 hours a week to a child that is still growing, developing their sense of identity & worth as a human being, & being told their natural body language is incorrect, how they naturally play is incorrect, being in pain means you get love -

is abuse.
That's abuse.
Read 10 tweets
4 Apr
I'm listening to part 2 & I already regret it.
They keep talking about how autistic adults are just one voice.

This sums up ABA:

"The parent of a young child with autism has to be regarded as the #1 stakeholder and the voice that is the most important for us to listen to."
"You know, an adult with autism, who has no relationship to the individual, does not have the same standing, and their voice counts for something but it should not be the #1 voice that we’re listening to."

Pretending like no autistic adult has gone through ABA.
Other person: "It’s a voice! It can be an important voice, but we need to balance it. Are these people speaking for everybody? But obviously not! I don’t think Ted Cruz, or Steve Tolley, speak for all politicians! Let alone Republicans!"
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