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6 Apr, 14 tweets, 3 min read
My heart has really been aching for DMX. I usually don't twisted about celebs,

but DMX was different. He was a foster kid, neglected, abused, forgotten, literally left for the wolves. I can relate to his early beginnings because our lives were similar.
The fact we've made it this far is a miracle. I root for all foster kids and kids of the system to make it the same way I root for all Black people to make it because it's hard.

When people and systems neglect you, forget you, and ignore you, it's hard to get right.

It's hard.
I didn't have drug issues. I was tough mentally when I was a kid. I had something inside of me that protected me from a lot of bad things, but I got into a lot of bad shit too when I was young.

My mom was a combo of evil and crazy. She also kept me a way from my dad.
When you don't have the nurturing, safety, and protection to grow up safely, and you don't have good people around you putting in the good bad things happen.

Victims of childhood abuse often find different ways to deal with that abuse. Some shop, some dope
DMX never had a fair shot. Every system that could have helped him failed him. He lived systematic failure publicly.

That brother was deep. He shared his pain with us and spoke for us. Us forgotten system kids.

I loved his music because I know those dark places he spoke of.
DMX was constantly searching for something he never had.

He never found it in drugs. He never found it in women.

He likely didn't cultivate it in his children either.

He didn't get it from an abusive music industry that's just like the child welfare system in many aspects.
I see/saw DMX as a man broken as a child trying to figure out how to fix himself. I never stopped rooting for him because I know what it feels like to not have that.

I know what it's like to be discarded and cast away.
But even in the dark baby, Imma shine bright.
DMX fought hard to be the man and father he never had. It's hard to be what you never had.

Sometimes, we just can't outrun trauma and demons. It's hard to forget the abuses we've endured.
We still remember the teachers who failed us; the foster homes that abused us; the systems that failed us; the friends that let us down; and the mistakes others had opportunities to make we never had.

Folks that have been in the system try to cope the best they can. I get it.
But sometimes in some of us former street kids, there is a void, that emptiness that never goes away. Some of us are looking for something to fill it.

Some choose sex, others choose drugs, some folks fight, etc. Some struggle privately, and others struggle out loud like DMX.
The one thing that bothers me most is that so many people failed the man who was once a boy that never really had a fair shot, but he tried anyway.

Some will say he was a failure. As a former system kid, I'll say he was a survivor of a system of failures.
I'm rooting for DMX and Black men like him, always. I could've been him. Despite White Supremacy, a child welfare system that devours and neglects Black kids, an educational system that fails us, and a Black community that loves to mind its business when it's convenient, he won.
Child abuse and neglect ruin adults. Hurt people don't just pop up out of thin air. We make them.

DMX is a product of us. We need to look at ourselves and ask what we did and didn't do to give him a fair shot. There is a DMX in your community right now!

Are you helping him?
Learn to see the humanity in men.

Also, don't look at them in the now. Ask men/women who physically, sexually, emotionally hurt them in their childhood. Often traumatized adults are acting out childhood hurts we never learned to process appropriately.

Become trauma-informed.

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26 Mar
Black people really need to get real about America and what it is.

Nobody is hiding anything anymore.

Nobody = White people and non-Black POC in power.

If you can't see it's because you don't want to see. It's the same blindness and love for White optimism that's killing us.
All you need to do is open any history book on what happened after the Emancipation Proclamation to the Reconstruction Era through Jim Crow.

Every time we make tiny steps, White America puts you back in our place or lets us stay stuck in a place so long it gives racists time.
to plan their next moves.

Just like White folks retaliated when Obama won office, they're going to retaliate because folks outvoted them in 2020, and Americans put another Black/Biracial person w/proximity to Whiteness again, we are going to pay.

Black folks are going to pay.
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Please stop excusing POC anti-Blackness and racism!

If POC who are able to exist in America as White, enjoy White benefits from their proximity to Whiteness and engage in oppressing and ignoring other groups, they deserve to be called out.

POC engage in White Supremacy too.
There are a lot of rifts, wedges, and discrimination between other ethnic groups and Black people because White people have taught immigrants to hate/oppress Blacks.

We're tired of being everybody's punching bag. We're tired of being exploited. We're tired of being silenced.
America has a lot of issues with racism, but let's stop pretending as if White people are the only ones who are problematic, exploitative, and oppressive.

And stop acting like Black people are not supposed to react to racism.

Just like we know our Whites, we know Otherness too.
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Please stop comparing last Wednesday's insurrection to Hitler's attempted coup.

Doing so minimizes White America's history of terrorizing Black people via state and local insurrections, and ignores the victimization of African American descendants of those insurrections.
Before the Holocaust, there was the Wilmington, NC insurrection in during the Reconstruction Era in 1898.

The Holocaust happened in Germany between 1933-45.

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White mobs began in the 1870s and we're still dealing with White mobs today in 2021.

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If we've learned anything in 2020, it's that state and federal governments will leave and forsake you, and they lie.

You need to be prepared for chaos beginning January 2021

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You should be getting your houses ready. Here are some tips that can help you prepare for 2021 emergencies.
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