@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad Yeah, okay, let me break this down for you. (I'm also a former mental health professional of many years who still does professional counseling. Because you're *both* sorta right, just missing the nuance of what each other are saying. I'm going to synthesize here. 😊
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad So, when speaking for others, only ever use words they have given you permission to say. For sex workers, if we don't know each other, we go to key words in links, pin tweets, bio, and like recent tweets, maybe search the media tab to find personal brand markers easily, right?
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad My general principle, is that if a word is used with respect, does not imply intimacy, conforms to the key words I found, and does not assume any information that is not given without explicit consent to share, preferably written, that ask can be made on tl or maybe in dms.
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad This is a pretty effective best practice, because like, even if I get it wrong, they usually clarify the assumption, realize I was acting in good faith, and we move on with a deletion or correction at the harmed person's discretion.
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad So like, we factor in extenuating circumstances, but a correction is given and accepted.

So scars. Cause this can be any info of any kind, right?
I have scars. Lots of scars. Some visible, some not. Sometimes lighting will highlight or obscure them, I'm not detailing my scars.
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad If Fenix here like, cwed my faint scars that I didn't mean to call attention to, Fenix would be pointing them out. That would be a terrible thing, obviously!!!

BUT
op has a pin tweet with the word "scarred" in it. This is something that op *advertises* as a *feature*
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad Fenix is not only warning readers about a featured aspect of the performer's kink that the performer owns for themselves, whether as a reclamatory act or a kink act or *both*, I'm not asking or guessing about it, he is ADVERTISING a feature for the performer in a way.
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad If I post a pot smoking image, right, and Fenix does a CW that says "CW 420" I will actually get more love for what I'm doing because it is a way to tag key words without putting them all in an annoying text block that no one wants to fucking type or even copy paste, y'know?
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad It makes the retweet more original, counts as controversy, which the algorithm LOVES, highlights an advertised feature, and doesn't speak over the specific individual in a situation.
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad So like, last bit, Ronan, because I know you wanted to use the words of sex workers to boost sex work messages, but that's the thing, you yelled at someone who was *also* a sex worker and an expert. If you go to Fenix's page, I'm sure you'll see more than a few hard kinks.
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad You did not know sex worker etiquette that is by definition usually unwritten for safety purposes, and you did not seem to know ethical kink etiquette, which I believe @sinfuldryad is RACK certified or something? So please don't sow division as a non sex worker *within* our space
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad You are the guest here, and we take you in good faith, and we want you to boost our messages, but do NOT make blanket statements *to* us *about* us. Please, I have to deal with this from well meaning ppl every single day. I am so tired of teaching, so if you learn, plz rt.
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad When you try to call out a sex worker, you are putting a systemically marginalized person at risk on the basis of an opinion that you have only a limited perspective on. If you've only talked to the ones who want their scars ignored, what about those who reclaim?
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad I really appreciate your effort to call out stigma against scars. I *really* do. I promise I'm not mad. But as someone who hopes to one day be able to show off her scars as battle wounds in a war she's winning, I can't say advertising scars is always bad.
@DEV0URMOUS @sinfuldryad Basically in all spaces, if you have a different identity, particularly one that is not marginalized let alone criminalized, please don't speak over ppl on a subject they live every single day. Thank you 😊✨🧚‍♀️

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